I kno he reall cares about me cause he always introduces me the proper way and is such a gentalmen.he's so nice to my parents and sibs.he thinks we should cause we've been together since i was 11 years old and he's never cheated.so peeps if you have advice to a 16 year old who doesn't kno to go all the way or not. so pleaz help me.
2006-11-22 13:59:09 · 10 answers · asked by Monique T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow since you were eleven!...just go with the flow if you feel comfortable with the idea and your all for then go ahead, but if your not quite sure wait awhile and think about it. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-22 14:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by nikki<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you've been together a long time doesn't mean he has any say on when you two take that step. It's your body and if he isn't willing to respect the fact that you're unsure, then maybe he isn't the one. People do change! Just because he treats you right in other ways and is nice to your family and friends doesn't make him the one either. Tell him your not sure! If he doesn't let you have all (and I do mean ALL) the time you want to figure it out, then he probably isn't the one.
Just remember this is a big, HUGE, GIGANTIC step in your relationship. It is not meant to be taken lightly, not just in respect to your decision, but also in the moment. This step comes with risks that are way beyond probably anything you've ever done.
Just take all the time you need and if you do decide to do this make sure you do your homework. I don't mean your chemistry homework or your English homework. What I mean is look for any and all information you can, for example the website listed by one of your other "answerers". This decision could change the rest of your life!
You do have the rest of your life to do these things, so don't rush them. So, be safe!
2006-11-22 22:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the only boy you have dated and you are the only girl he has dated, at your ages, you need to put the breaks on this relationship and proceed no further at this time. Believe me, there are many changes coming both of your ways. If you take a break from each other and sometime down the road you find yourself back together, you will never have to question yourself about whether or not you were meant for each other. However, from experience, I will tell you that life is generally long enough that the first guy you meet isn't always the one you marry and live happily ever after. There are some success stories, but there are more failures in marriages from getting married to the first person who causes your heart to miss a beat.
2006-11-22 22:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by rexallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all let him know that 11 to now r 2 different time u guys r growing up u r not the same person u were at 11. which means that u still need time. let him know that u r not ready to go all the way yet. remember at the end it is all up to u sweetie, what u want and what u don't want. but don't make him force u into anything u don't want to do. if he is the gentleman that he shows ur parents or whatever he will understand and respect ur wishes. if not don't b stress kick him out.
2006-11-22 22:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All your describing is a guy who puts on a good act. He wants to get laid and he is putting on a show so you will think he is sincere. Don't do it just because you been together, if he is worth anything at all he will respect your wishes. If he keeps pressuring you dump him fast. He is just a player.
Save your first time for when you get married because you can't take this back.
2006-11-22 22:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Monique, It's simple. If you are not ready for sex ,you don't have to do anything with him. He should respect you and wait until you are ready.Never let a guy talk you into sex, if you don't want to. Your B.F. is really pushing you into this. Be cool and tell him NO..
Clowmy
2006-11-22 22:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something that you have to decide if you are ready for. If you are in doubt wait it out. Sounds like he really cares for you. He should respect your decision. Either way.
2006-11-22 22:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to get in your drawers. Tell him you're not ready, and if he can't accept that. Then he's not the man you thought he was.
2006-11-22 22:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre not ready then youre not ready its as simple as that and make sure he knows that. but when you are make sure you protect yourself beforehand.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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2006-11-22 22:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by MeLiSsA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is your and your boyfriend
decision
today
not mine what it is
make sure it is safe ,and make out of
love
2006-11-22 22:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by james_siple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋