I kno he reall cares about me cause he always introduces me the proper way and is such a gentalmen.he's so nice to my parents and sibs.he thinks we should cause we've been together since i was 11 years old and he's never cheated.so peeps if you have advice to a 16 year old who doesn't kno to go all the way or not. so pleaz help me.
2006-11-22 13:58:58 · 18 answers · asked by Monique T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have any doubt then the answer should be an absolute and definite NO. If he truly cared about you then he would wait until you're ready. If this is enough of a reason for him to even *threaten* to break up with you. He does not care about you nor does he respect you.
I personally think sex should be saved for marriage (and I'm not religious...I just want the security of having someone for my child and having the financial stability which I certainly don't have now)
16 and 17 is still young... (I'm 17 myself) A lot changes in that year from 16 to 17 to 18. It's a very turbulent time. If he's such the gentleman he won't pressure you any further.
Stand firm in what you believe. Hope all works for the best.
2006-11-22 14:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should wait until your married to "go all the way". I know because I did when I was 15 and until this day -16- i regret it. I am in a new realtionship with the man that I will love forever. We both know that we are going to be forever. He gave that special thing to me and I wish that it would have been the same both ways.Also when I told my parents they really took it hard it crushed them so much to know that thier little grew up so quick.It really tore us apart and it took a while to get back to the way things were. So I think that no matter what wait until your married.
2006-11-22 22:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jelly Belly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how long you've been together, if 16 is too young, it's too young no matter what. Suddenly, he needs to be rewarded for being patient, so you have to forget right from wrong? You seem like a great person. Don't give up your integrity just because you're afraid you're not good enough to wait for. If you do, you ARE!
Integrity means you know what's right and you stick to it, especially when it's not easy to do so.
2006-11-22 22:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and say NO! You are NOT ready at the age of 16!! Drop this idiot like a hot potato!!!! And go do your homework. You should be concentrating on your education and what kind of productive career path you can take after highschool. Boys can come later... !!!!!
2006-11-22 22:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really think if he is a gentalmen and he loves u and stuff if your not ready he should be ok with that. Maybe you just say we can try but take it slow cuz I dont kno if I will like it or something you should be open with him if you have been with him so long :)
2006-11-22 22:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Artificially Sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey okay one year difference is no big deal trust me i was with a twenty year old when i was fourteen but the thing is that your age difference should not matter since your both still minors but it all matters if it you are confortable with the situation i am kind of going through the same thing i know it is hard to get up the courage to make up ur mind though!
2006-11-22 22:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure, then you shouldn't be taking it any further. The last thing you need, especially being so young, is to sleep with him when you're not sure about it and then feel regret when it's all done and over with.
Wait until you know FOR SURE that you're ready.
2006-11-22 22:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the balls next time he tells you that he wants to go further. That should change him mind. lol
Just kidding. You should just TALK to him about this issue and express your feelings. You should come to a reasonable agreement. If you both decide that you should go further then do it.
2006-11-22 22:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by icantfindaname50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents or a school counselor.. Planned parenthood could also help. It is free and they provide counseling without telling your parents. Honestly you are to young.
2006-11-22 22:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by mixedchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not ready yet, or you wouldn't be asking. There's no real rush (cuz once it's gone it's gone!), but this is something you both need to agree on.
2006-11-22 22:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋