A couple year ago my brother died I was very young, when they told me I cried but the next day I didnt cry and I still cant cry about it.Ive even been to therspy I cant cry I should though.And I loved him very much.
Is there something wrong with me?
2006-11-22 13:43:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
There's nothing wrong with you...everyone reacts differently. I lost a neice 2 months ago...i cried for maybe 2 days and then after that I kind of went on.....I also thought there was something wrong with me. You dont need to cry to mourn someone. Its best to remember them and laugh at the good times you guys had....remembering someone is also a way to mourn. So dont worry....your perfectly normal...and I am very sorry. My prayers go out to you and your family.
2006-11-22 13:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Reneg@de 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you. You know how much you loved him. Everyone grieves in their own way. I am an extremely emotional person - I can cry just from my mom looking at my the wrong way. However, it takes a LOT to make my sister cry. It's perfectly fine that you don't cry constantly & as long as you are grieving in some other (healthy) way. You'll always remember you brother & it a good thing that thinking of him doesn't make you break down in tears. I hope that you have plenty of reassurance through these answers. God bless.
2006-11-22 22:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by ELLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are or how old your brother was when he passed. Not everybody cries when there is a death in the family no matter how close. People who had good relationships will miss them but cherish the good memories and don't feel the need to remember the sadness... There is nothing wrong if everything else is ok if you have other difficulties they may be related to ignoring the grief..see a psychologist if you feel something isn't right...
2006-11-22 21:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by rodeorn62 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No There is nothing wrong with you. People react to death in different ways and no one way is correct. The oriental people wear white and have a 2 or 3 day party. My pastor says to look at it like this, the dead person is no longer in pain and living miserably and what is on the other side is soooo much better than our wildest dreams. When my grama died my sister didn't cry for her and it caused strife in my family. It's not wrong not to cry, it's just how you deal with pain.
2006-11-22 21:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rae 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you. Not everyone cries when someone close to them dies. I was very close to a lady that I called "my other mother". When she passed away I did not cry. I just remembered all the happy things from all of our time together. The happy memories I had of her and her late husband were all I needed.
2006-11-22 21:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I am the same way. It's so weird but when I dream about the person sometimes i am overwhelmed with grief and crying in my sleep. The grief is there but its just somehow we can't let it out. Doesn't mean that you don't have feelings. I've seen some people cry at funerals where they don't even know the person.
2006-11-22 22:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by lucy02 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right - there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone is different and we all react to things differently. Some day you might feel a need to cry about this, but perhaps not. Either way you are only human and we are all different. Best wishes.
2006-11-22 21:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all My dad died about 8 months ago and there are times when things upset me and remind me of him but I don't cry I can't tell you why that is but that what happens with death I guess because sometimes you will cry when something reminds you of that person but then sometimes you don't and you think you should but it happens to me to... But i know there's nothing wrong with that.
2006-11-22 21:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by im_not_psycho_im_cute89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I'm the same way about death. It's weird too because I can cry about a sad commercial! When someone close to me dies though I just CAN'T cry. Everybody deals with death differently. I'm sorry for your loss.....don't let this make it worse for you.
2006-11-22 21:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me the big thing is, HOW AND WHY. When my mom died I was very sad, but I was glad it was over, for 2 reasons. It was cancer and it had spread everywhere, even the brain. I was glad for her it was over, and now for me, (it's been since 1998), for me, I don't have to go through it again. Everyone grieves in a different way. Don't let it bug you.
2006-11-22 22:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sandi A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋