do you think family should be there for each other?

Question

my in-laws don't even reconize our son their grandson not for birthdays don't ring up or anything and they only live 5 minutes away not even that , but when they want their son my partner to do something like mow the grass garden ect they expect him to go their , plus they foster kids we beleive its for the money as my partners sister is always taking care of these foster kids while in-laws are party , we think we should have nothing to do with them what do you think.

Answer 1

im sorry, but your inlaws don't deserve to be part of your family! i don't mean this in an disrespectful way at all i just think that if they really cared they would be there. i mean if they live 5 minutes away how hard is it to call and say happy birtday! and im sorry to the foster kids who have to go through this but at least your partners sister is there for them! and then when ther just expect your husband to be there! give me a break, i mean my father goes to his parents and my mothers parents to help out, but he is never expected to and whenever he does go over he is always coming home with something! but i mean talk to your husband and just tell him how u feel!

Answer 2

Of course family should be there for each other! Who else?

Have you thought what actually made/makes them react like that? Have you tried to speak openly about the problems (if any) and change them? It's worth trying even for the benefit of your son having a set of grandparents that love him and are part of his childhood. I know I enjoyed having mine around and I miss them.

May be that's not possible. It's shame but it happens... They still have their purpose though as they serve you and your partner as a constant reminder of how much difference can love make in this life. So be generous and let them stay. Life's so strange - who knows, tomorrow they may need you and your son. You may go and help them and I bet you'd feel grateful for the experience and good about what you've done.

Answer 3

I have no Idea. My former Aunty (we do not recognise her as a family mamber) was stealing money from our grandfather and blaming it on my grandmother. her daughter would dump the kids (3 and 5yrs old) on my great grandmothers hands (she was in her eighties by the way. and they would go out to the pokies and spend all of grandads money on there. when they both died it was only a week after the funeral that Our "Aunty" (who was living in my Great grand parents house at the time) put the house up for sale. cause they didn't have any money. she still owed a shop down the street $209.10

Good luck with your problem because my family needs help with heirs

Answer 4

You need to find out why they think like this.Alot of older people beleive in marriage.I'm not saying their right . I will say there is no reason on gods green earth to ignore a grandson. I would first find out why they are doing this by coming right out and asking them.You deserve an answer. Then if they can't come up with one u approve of then yes. Have nothing esle to do with them.But like I said for the child.Find out why.Good luck

Answer 5

my mum lived in the next streeet and she never visited her grandkids...

some folks see it as a betrayal... yove left home and are quite hapily standing on your own two feet (as it were) and they dont like the fact that youre an independent person.

im 1 of 5, 2/5 & 3/5 are successful, 4/5 and 5/5 arent. mum and dad were at their beck and call 24/7... 1/2/3 got ignored. 2&3 got taken advantage of something rotten.. and 1 thats me stood up to her and told her some truths...ok so she threw me out when i was 16..but im 50 soon... i got over it. and i never backed down to her again... (she used to beat me with whatever came to hand)

partners always get caught in the middle. and most of the time they have no idea of whats gone on in the past... smile sweetly and ignore their petty tantrums and overbearing demands... if yor hubby is running around like a headless chicken, let him... if you say something it'll be wrong..so dont bother.

just play her at her own game... she want huibby to mow the lawn... give him an alternative... you cant Do two things at once, you can only be in one place at any given time...

youre a woman...you know your man... youre his wife..not his mother...

Answer 6

I think that ultimately it is only family who are there for you. My gut reaction to your question was that for some reason you have cut the grand parents off. I feel you recent them asking your partner to mow the lawn and view that as an expectation.........he could always say no.
Is it really a 'we' think or a 'you' think situation?

Answer 7

what a shame - there are plenty of grandparents in the world who dont have contact with their grandchildren becuase of one reason or another and wish so much they could - i know my parents do as i live the other side of the world.

While the children are young they are the ones who suffer as they will not understand properly the rejection from their grandparents, but as they grow up it will be the grandparents that suffer as children have a way of remembering and theres a old saying "if children live with kindness and consideration they learn respect"

It woudnt be a good idea to stop your children seeing the grandparents (if the g/parents want to) leave the door always open - dont give any body any reason to blame you or your children for no contact with the grand parents let the grandparents mess things up for their selves.
Hope all works out for you

Answer 8

yes, my husbands family are painfully distant, they don't even bother with birthday cards!
my family on the other hand are very close, not so close that we are interfering, but are always there for each other when it counts.
i have 3 sisters, and my mum has nick-named us the Slater sisters, because we are of all different ages, speak our minds, and although sometimes we all fight like cat and dog, we do not at anytime tolerate a threat to ourselves.
xx

Answer 9

My family does not acknowlege me eithier on holidays some families are just that way they not see how they r hurting thier family and to be honest probally dont care there just mean. tommorow is my birthday and my family could care less they dont think of me as family because ive made a few mistakes

Answer 10

family should be there but some people like your in laws are just selfish and mean. if there not prepared to be there for your son why should your partner be there for his parents. family should be there for one another but it works both ways.