Dating tips for over 40's? I haven't been "out" there for years. What does it look like? I don't have baggage but how do you date and not talk about your 'stuff' when you are in your 40's....you've been through the marriage, divorce, children. How do you go out on a date and leave all that out and just have fun?
2006-11-22 13:25:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still talk about your "other stuff" on a date, but you don't dwell on it. No one wants to hear all about your painful divorce or terrible ex on the first date. Mature people who date are looking for someone who is fun to talk to. They look for someone who is a good listener and has a great sense of humor. Lets face it, by our age we have learned to laugh at life's efforts to knock us down. We see the humor in the world around us and no longer take everything so seriously. Just keep things light and fun on your first few dates. You will get the hang of it! Dating is different at our age. We tend to skip most of the games that we dealt with in our youth and just get straight to the talking and getting to know the other person.
2006-11-22 13:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've found that putting the baggage on the table before the date helps. Once both people have everything out and open...the date reverts to being fun (that is...if both people are alright with the other's situation). I've also found that fewer surprises (personal surprises...like telling someone you have 3 kids on the fifth date) are better.
2006-11-22 13:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many women in their 40's who have active dating lives. The key is finding a community / area where you both have some common interest. This could be a church, hobby, class or other. Dating sucks..sharing you life with a person can be great.
2006-11-22 13:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by worldsource19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm dating a guy who's more then 40. We talked about the past. He talks about his ex, children, what went wrong, their friendship, and I don't think that's bad. You need to talk about those things other wise you don't really get to know each other. I personally think one has to talk about one's "stuff", not that you're going to be talking about it everyday, but to let the other person know. Go out. There's somebody out there for you. Give yourself a chance
2006-11-22 13:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone you have similar common interests with (family values, career, etc.) and really focus on asking him/her questions about their life. Resist the temptation to talk about you. Really try to get to know this person. Relax and have fun...
2006-11-22 13:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am over 49 and still single. and have much trouble dating.
2006-11-22 13:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur heart
2006-11-22 13:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋