I'm completely and totally in love with my boyfriend but I'm not going to live very long because I have lung, liver and heart deteration, also I have TB tuberculosis, I love him and he sayed after he graduates college he's going to ask me to marry him, when he found out I had TB he cried for 3 days straight and now every time I see him he holds me till he has tears in his eyes, he says I'm his little angel, I'm very small and petite. I love him but I couldn't stand for him to be hurt if anything happened to me, do you think this sounds like the right guy for me, I don't know anymore I mean he's soooo very perfect at everything not just being kind,caring, fun, sweet, compassionate, let me metion to you I only have about 3 more years left in my life and I'm only 16. I want to live and share my life with him but I know I won't live very long what should I do. Any help would be great.Jasmine
2006-11-22 13:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by amerine09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem is that in the end he will get hurt and all I want is for him to be happy how someone could love someone else who is very ill and won't be there for him forever is beyond my knowledge.
2006-11-22 13:29:13 · update #1
first off I am very active I am in a lot of sports I don't smoke, don't drink don't have any bad habits also I have to stay active in order for my lungs to keep working properly, my boyfriend's parents told me today that I am the most wonderful person they ever met and would allow us to get married I thank God everyday for my life but I don't want my boyfriend to get hurt is all.
2006-11-22 13:52:09 · update #2
If he is perfect and loves you just as much as you love him. Why not enjoy whatever time you have left with him?_
2006-11-22 13:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should start having a really healthy life style, make yourself more healthy to prolong your life.. Stop any bad habits.. and think positive.. mental determination can do alot of things.. like streghtening people, loving a person and maybe you can prolong your life for a few month or year.. you still have time. you have 3 years more.. many things can happen.. But most of all your really should take good care of yourself.. don't waste too much time in self concsiousness, use every second of your life to enjoy his love and cherish every moment.. nobody knows what will happen 3 years from now, so don't think about your dying days, just live your life and fill it with precious memories..
2006-11-22 21:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by teri_lqy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry about your condition, but so very happy for you too. So many people have such a hard time finding someone who loves then unconditionally, and here you have just that person.
My advice is to stop worrying about how long you have and what your death would do to him. He is very very aware of this already, and still he wants to share his life with you for as long as you both have. "till death do us part" is part of the marriage vows, but this also applies to true and loving friendships as well.
Live and love with all your heart for the rest of your life. It makes no difference if life is short or long. What's important is HOW life is lived.
Spend your life with him in happiness and in love. Enjoy each other fully. This is the greatest gift you can give him. In this way, you will live forever with him, and always bring a gentle smile to his face, and a loving, warm glow to his heart even years for the rest of his life as well.
2006-11-22 21:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by kamikaze_4021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one, i'm sorry about your condition. Its a shame when someone such as yourself has no time to live their life. Two, dont push him out of your life, it'll only make things difficult on both of you. If you really love each other, spend as much time as you can together and enjoy the time. Trust me, he'd probably be more hurt if you pushed him out of your life then he will be if you allow him to stay and be with you through it all.
2006-11-22 21:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live each day as though it will be your last try not to dwell too much on dying just enyoy what time you have left..I wish u gods blessings
2006-11-22 21:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys sounds wonderful--why dont' you try both of you talking to your parents together and see what advice and blessings they are ready to give you.
2006-11-22 21:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that........Jeez...this is a toughy...Go with your heart...He seems like a good guy and seems willing to stay with you....Give him a chance....but if he leaves so any reason just understand that it might be harder for him.....
2006-11-22 21:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by iadoremarilyn86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes to marriage and have a nice life, I am really really sorry. e-mail me
2006-11-22 21:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sar' bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋