fight with my parents?

Question

my parents and i had a very big fight yesterday and i want to run away so bad. my mom told me that my brother was a lot better child than i was and a lot of other hurtful things and that just broke me in half. (and that wasnt the first time) should i go or stay home and just get over it?

Answer 1

get over it and talk to her about how it hurt your feelings, i know it hurts because it has happened to me but ever since i talked to my mom she has never done it again.

Answer 2

It can be really difficult to get over a hurtful thing said by a parent, but running away definitely isn't the solution. You don't have to 'get over it' right away but doing something drastic like running away will only cause problems and make you more unhappy.

When both your parents and yourself are calm, trying talking to them and figuring out what causes the fights. Tell them the things they say really do hurt your feelings - explain why it hurt you and ask what you did to upset them. Chances are, your parents are hurt by some of your actions or words as well and there might be some miscommunication around that.

If you can talk together, you might be able to clear some things up and you can attempt to understand each other better. I know it sounds hard to do, but it give it a try - by being reasonable and talking it over, your parents might be more willing to listen.

Also, keep in mind that everyone goes through rough times with their parents, so you're not alone even though it can feel like sometimes.

Answer 3

Hi..I'm sorry your parents said such hurtful things to you. You may never "get over" it but leaving is not the answer. I know because I've done it myself and it only hurts you. Being human beings we say/do stupid things all the time. Maybe you should write them a letter to tell them how you feel. Write a roughdraft..one that gets out all your anger then rewrite it again. This way you don't have to confront them and they will know how u feel. I'm older now so I do know what I say. I've always said that I'd rather be beat up than have unkind/hurtful words thrown at me because you can never take those back. Be the better person..you know your a good person and you will be moving out one of these days. Always remember how these words hurt you and NEVER do it to another person. Adults/parents sometimes say/do stupid things...we are human. I wish you luck. Believe in yourself and then when a situation like this comes up again..you'll be the better person.
Take Care..
Christine

Answer 4

It is not unusual for parents and children to disagree.However as the adult,the parent should know better than to compare their children. It is both hurtful as well as unfair. In spite of the argument you should not run away from home.It is a cruel world out there full of predators who would take advantage of you in every way.Regardless of how you feel your parents love you,if they didn't care they wouldn't care what you said or did.It is easy for parents to gravitate towards the child who is "the good child" It is insensitive on their part since you and your brother are 2 different people.Talk to your mother about your feelings. Let her know you need to know she is there for you. Tell her that you love her and give her a hug.Sometimes parents need to hear they are loved too!

Answer 5

Your mom probably said hateful things simply because she was very upset with you. Many times we all do this even though it's not right we're human and sometimes things slip out of our mouths that we regret later. When every ones calm try talking to your mom sometime and tell her about how it hurts you when she says things like how your brothers better then you and such. I'm sure she didn't mean it. Hang in there cause I'm sure your mom loves you very much. Good luck to you ;o)

Answer 6

You need to stay there honey. My mom always told me she was going to send me to the children's home, that i was a spiteful child ( i was not though ) She just did not want to deal with being a mother. Sometimes the child has to think better than their parents. I know it is hard, i lived. I could tell you a lot more of my childhood but, as you see, i lived through it.

Answer 7

oh, please stay home. as bad as you feel things are right now at home, it's a lot worst out in the big world. talk with you parents - let them KNOW what they are doing to you - ask them why they say such hurtful things to you; but, be prepared if they tell you the truth; but, wouldn't you rather know why they say these things to you, rather than just hear the hurtful words. they may find that they don't even know why these dreadful words come out. but, if they have good cause for the words, listen to what they say, evaluate what YOU do and be able to see what they are saying - or go back to them and let them know that you thought about what they said - and it makes no sense - so, please, explain more, or if you can't give me an explanation, i just don't want to hear this distrutive kind of talk about me any longer. good luck.

Answer 8

Stay. In a fight you have two combatants. You just told us what she said. You sort of left out what you said. A "Big Fight" is never one sided.

Don't you hate it when adults use your own words against you?

Answer 9

Please do not run away... that will not solve your problems. There is only one thing that will solve your problems. That is to realize that you need Jesus. He wants to be your best friend, and He can get you to heaven if only you ask Him. Nobody on earth is perfect. We are all equally sinners- no one person is better than another. Jesus died and rose again to save both pastor and pervert. Please check out the link below- this is the only way.

Answer 10

u should just get over it and try to talk to ur parents and express ur feelings.