How do I make my son have optimal happiness when he is in a blended family? I don’t get along with his dads side of the family at all and because of that, we have no contact unless it’s to do with my son. I just wonder what the best thing to do for this s? I support my son’s relationship with his family and let him have access and don’t say bad things but I feel like he may feel unsettled like he live in two worlds. He is five years old. Any one have this and how do you deal with it? His family lives in different state then us too.
2006-11-22 12:59:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i am not with his father, should have mentioned that. and i dont get along with him.
2006-11-22 13:27:04 · update #1
It looks like ur in a bit of a difficult situation. The best thing I could tell you would be to pray and just talk to him. Don't pressure him, give him his space. Treat him normally. You just tdo the best you can and he will be absolutely fine.
God Bless.
2006-11-22 13:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Just Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok look I'm 16 and have grown up in a blended family all of my life. at five years old there's nothing you can really do. talk to him about even though he's 5 he's a real person. If you don't say bad things, make sure the other side does the same. Making sure he's happy and making sure he's settled are two different things however. The happyness thing will come from him as long as he's loved no matter where he is and that the blended part of the family doesn't treat him like he's blended and treats him like their own flesh and blood. To get him to feel settled, make sure he has the same rues no matter where he is. then he won't feel like it is 2 different worlds but just 2 different homes. the best advice though... talk to him. ask him how he feels and if he says he's happy then trust him until he proves otherwies. hope i helped.
2006-11-22 22:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
First of all never make a big deal out of it. The more fuss you create out of it, the bigger it will seem to your son.
And trust me - more than half of us here do not get along with their in-laws :) Just take it as something that is already done. Try being nice to them and thats it. Never show your son that it is a problem.
2006-11-22 21:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Julia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by asking how he feels. Ask him what would be a better way. Thenmake him part of the family by doing things with him as a family.
2006-11-22 21:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋