my daughter is 14 and weighs 96. She is 5'2 and she thinks she is fat. what do i tell her?

Answer 1

Sounds good to me I wish I had been that size. Instead I was 5' and 140 pounds at her age. It was hard. But she would not want to get smaller and gain a little more if she gets taller or she will have smaller boobs(less body fat=smaller boobs).

Answer 2

That is a rather low weight, but I wouldn't worry too much just yet. I think all girls go through a stage like that. I know I did. From age 15 to 21 (two years ago) I used to work out obsessively. I just didn't feel comfortable with my body...I had a tight little body and everything, but I still felt fat. She'll grow out of it in her own time. Just keep a look out for odd eating patterns...disappering after meals to the bathroom...baggy clothes...etc. My friend was anorexic in high school, and her parents didn't know for a few years, they get very good at hiding it.

Answer 3

I would recommend 2 things.
1) Next time you take her to the doctor, have him/her explain that this is a healthy wait. Although I doubt logic would work, it's a good thing for her to know. Also, try to put the focus on being healthy; encourage her to eat well and exercise regularly, so she doesn't think you're judging how she feels.
2) Tell her that you think she is beautiful. Unfortunately, at 14 she already knows that as her mother it's your job to tell her that, but it's always good to hear.
If you worry that she's doing anything to seriously damage her health, then you would need to take more agressive action, but in the meantime, positive reinforcement is the best prevention there is.

Answer 4

Tell her that she is not fat. Find ways to higher herself esteem like telling her she's pretty. Find people that really are fat and show them to her. Then tell her that being fat is unhealthy but being underweight is too. When she looks into the mirror she probably sees herself as fat. You don't see that and the people around her don't but she does. Do something, anything before this gets out of control and you no longer have a daughter.

Answer 5

Avoid too much discussion about weight even to tell her she is not fat, it just reinforces things and to a juvenile mind, she may think you are just lying to her. Work on her self esteem instead. Some people say they are fat when they are just unhappy with their looks or their overall fitness. Get her into some type of physical activity, it doesn't have to be strenuous but something to work on her cardio. If she starts losing weight or has poor eating habits, consult her doctor.

Answer 6

Start teaching her self esteem now before she starts putting on high school and college "freshman 15" weight. It sounds like she is asking you for attention. Try to make more time for her doing healthy activities and reenforce the fact that she is special for what is on the inside. Obviously she is not fat, but I get the feeling her weight is not the real issue.

Answer 7

I'm 14, 5'4 and weigh 160. If anyone is fat it would be me.

Tell her she doesn't need to worry about what she looks like, if she has a good personality then she's perfect. Don't let her go on thinking she's fat cause that could lead her to take some pretty drastic measures (like starving herself.. etc.)... Show her some pictures of people who are around her height, maybe her age, and are "fat"...

and, if you need anymore help, or would like me to talk to her [I think probably since you don't know me, you wouldn't trust me enough to talk to her.. so yeah.].. then you can just instant message me if you'd like me to talk to her.

Answer 8

I was about your daughter's size when I was 14. I was 5'3'' and 97lbs and I felt fat then. It is because before I started puberty I used to be much skinnier. At 10 (before puberty), I was 4'9'' and 60lbs... so roughly I gained 10lbs every year from age 10-14. I think she feels fat because she compares herself to how much she weighed before puberty. Remind her that bones becoming heavier and chest becoming bigger takes into account for weight gain during puberty.

Answer 9

Tell her that I am 11, weighs 120, and is 5 "3" and I was still voted prettiest in my class. And that without her weight, she woudn't be the beauti the she is 2day,

Answer 10

Well, alot of kids go through this at around this age.
My best friend did. Try to find a weight chart for a child her age.( Shes not fully developed yet.

What I would do is talk to her in a nice manner.
Good Luck!