he needs time to think ((im 20 hes 21))?

Question

(im 20 hes 21) I ended a 2 yr and 1/2 relationship 2 wks ago impulsively i just got mad and said the magic words,So last Friday when i tried getting back with my [X] he told me he needs time to think about us about the way he acts and the way i act and just the way his life is going since hes been going through hard times. So should i give him the time and space he says he needs.? Its hard really hard when all he does is call me and text me daily and tell me he loves me and wants to be with me but not to incist on getting back with him because he will tell me when hes ready. what does he mean if he loves me why have time off?

*let me add the break up wasnt because of cheating or lying it was more like he got on my nerves because he was acting childish and the words just sliped out of my mouth..

** also he is being not a jerk but hes confusing me with "i love you" "i miss you" "i want to be with you messages" why is he "thinking" and still wants me around why not just get togethe

Answer 1

Maybe he is trying to punish you or maybe he really does need time to think. Maybe he is mature enough to realize that maybe the two of you aren't going to work out or that you deserve better. You'll just have to wait and see but my guess is that it won't be too long and you'll be back together. In the meantime don't stress too much about it and you can do some thinking of your own on whether or not you and he are meant to be. The important thing is that you must realize that you can NOT change him and if his behaviour is going to be a major issue then it is not fair to either of you to make each other miserable. Both of you are still so young and you will both go through many changes yet before your personalities are fully formed. Yes, 20 is young in today's world.