Do you think it's rude and/or presumptuous for a bride-to-be to ask for very expensive china?

Question

I realize that a wedding shower is a couple's chance to get some nice things that they may otherwise not be able to buy, BUT I think some girls are kind of out of control. A recent bride-to-be asked for what I think is outrageously priced china. A soup bowl cost $85, the sugar bowl was $135, and the gravy boat was $260!

Just to tell you all know, she got like 5 place settings out of 12 and that's it. No other pieces of her china were given. I know I'm not obligated to buy the stuff but I'm just too practical to want that stuff or buy it for anyone else. The girl doesn't even cook or entertain! She also had about 20 small kitchen appliances on her registry. Did I mention she doesn't cook?! It's just stupid to me and I wondered what other people thought.

Answer 1

yes it is..you learn the longer your married the less it matters

Answer 2

It all depends on what the bride-to-be is requesting. She may want those things and use them. I have seen some pretty off the wall requests for gifts like pieces of art that are much more expensive than a gravy boat. After all most couples are just starting out and some of the time can't afford nice china. So it is nice to have some pieces that you can also pass down to your daughter. So the tradition starts with you on what you would like. It is after all, your day. Sure we remember the groom but, hey "If Mama ain't happy, then nobody's happy."

Answer 3

I am not really sure but I too just got married in April of this year and see I didn't want to or need to ask for things for a home because I have all these things already but, what I did was have an "Wishing Well Reception" that is where No Gifts are brought to the wedding but, Cash & a card and that way I could just get the things that I may needed or wanted regardless of the cost, I will say this though I think it's rude to ask people for expensive things when you are aware of the fact that they may not have that kind of money to spend on a gift, but if you come from a like rich type of family or situation then hey they do it all the time right?
I am not from that life style personally and I will not spend that kind of money on things that simple in life at this place in my life but, hey if I had it like that may be I would think different right?
Different strokes for different folks right?..................................

Answer 4

First, what do you mean by "ask for?" Is she specifically telling someone to buy certain items, or is she just saying that those are her preferences? If she's telling someone out of the blue, yes, it's rude; but if someone asked her what she would like, then no, it's not. As to whether an individual can afford to buy any of those items, that is something only they know. If you can't afford what the bride prefers, then get what you can afford (or give money), and don't worry about it. All gifts are appreciated, because they're free! And if the bride harbors resentment for not getting something, again don't worry about it--she'll get over it eventually. And yes, some brides, and grooms, are a bit greedy. But what do you expect? The advertising world pushes materialism, openly and covertly. And a lot of people are only interested in material or physical things. All you can do is shake your head in sorrow.

Answer 5

It is more common now for brides to go and start a registry at some store, where a wedding consultant will pressure them to choose 'their pattern', that is their china design.

Some brides need this Lenox, Waterford, etc, as much as they need a hole in their heads. But it is useful if the boss, or any business acquaintance, wants to send the bride and groom a present, not too personal, still elegant.

But now, you as a friend, you feel free to bring/buy whatever you can afford, and feel comfortable with. It is an honor for the bride to have friends throw and attend her bridal shower. She will be very happy with your presence in such a special day.

Enjoy the celebration! Best Wishes.

Answer 6

No, I don't think it's rude/presumptuous. I'm assuming she's registered for these things, and just because she's registered for them, doesn't mean she'll get them. Sometimes the store will give you a discount on items from your registry that aren't bought, so the bride figures what she doesn't receive as gifts, she can buy after the wedding. And what's expensive to one person may not be to another. That's why when you register for gifts, you're told to pick items in all price ranges.

Answer 7

No way. If you don't ask, you don't get. There may very well be people who would love to provide that type of gift to her. If you can not, no sweat, pick something else. People have every right to set high standards for themselves. When coming up with a registry you try to pick things from different price points. I am sure this suggestion for expensive china was not directed towards you. The question for you is why does this offend you?

Answer 8

If it was on a registry, then that means there were other items on there as well. If the bride wants the china, she should ask for it. If a guest thinks it is too expensive, they have other items to choose from. A registry is a couple's wish list. It is something they are going to do once (hopefully), so why not ask for everything they want. If they don't get it, then they can decide if it is something they want to buy on their own.

Answer 9

I don't think it's rude or presumptuous but I think that brides that register for ultra-expensive items should go into it knowing that not everyone can afford to purchase such items. Remember also that you are not obligated to purchase from their bridal registry. In fact, I rarely do gift items from a registry merely for the fact that in 10 years time, no one will remember which plate I purchased them from anyone else who was invited to the wedding. I'd rather give items that will be remembered for years to come. It's nice to look around my home and know that a beautiful vase came from a certain person but I couldn't tell ya who the hell gave me the flatware that I registered for.

Answer 10

I don't think it's rude unless that's the only thing on the registry. A couple should have a wide range of prices for items on their registry. Even though you weren't planning to spend that much on them, one of their relatives may want to get them an expensive gift so there's nothing wrong with putting expensive items on their registry.

Answer 11

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