that he doesnt have time for me, and after 3 weeks of him not talking to me, out of the blue I email him "hey stranger" and he emails back saying OMG why havent you called or came over ever; WTF ?!?$%@# what should I do say hey, wanna hang out, or just give him the same treatment he gave me??
2006-11-22 11:39:45 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you just said so, you were in love. past tense.,
Find another one
:> peace
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2006-11-25 18:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only gave two choices: hanging out or giving him the same treatment. If I had to choose between the two, I'd give him the same back. I'd take the middle ground and just tell him you need to be with someone who has the time to put into a mature relationship and that he doesn't seem to be able to offer that.
If you'd have really wanted to give him the same treatment, you wouldn't have written him after 3 weeks of him not speaking to you. Examine what YOU want out of the relationship before responding to him and let him know what you need. If he can't provide it, move on.
2006-11-22 12:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he must have been tied up with some other chick because I've been there. And all of a sudden he's playin' like he's been missing your phone calls. If anything, he should've been calling you after saying he didnt have time for you. When he had time, he should've picked up the phone. But he might have chose not to since he's been tuning you out to some other girl and is faking like you stopped calling him when he claimed that he had no time for you. I think you should give him a taste of his on medicine. Let him do the contacting and until then.........make time for self and handle your on business.
2006-11-22 12:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by J.B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had something else going on and now he's playing you because it didn't pan out. It's very clear that he chocked up his losses and moved on until you e-mailed him. Look at the facts...1 he said he didn't have time for you...2 he hasn't contacted you in three weeks and most likely would not have but you started the rebound. Sorry if this sounds cold but it's the cold hard facts. Move on and find someone that does have time for you
2006-11-22 12:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no he didn't! This bs is called crazy making behavior. Its meant to keep you off balance and him in control. I really wish you hadn't e-mailed him after all that time. You've given him the upper hand again, which is exactly what jerks like this want. If you go back to this jerk, you are going to be in this exact same situation in about, say, 3 weeks?
2006-11-22 12:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now why on earth did you e-mail him after three weeks? You are setting yourself up to be used AGAIN by sounding desperate. He wants you to chase him till he gets sex; then it's the same old story. He won't have time till you chase him down...don't you deserve better than this fool? He's for sure not in love with you so why would you want to "hang out" with him?
2006-11-22 12:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the dude has low self esteem like most girls but he is a dude. So you are going to have to press the issue, take charge ( make the first move) but remember if don't match your intesity or passion ditch the loser cause his lack of self confidence will keep him from ever connecting with on a deeper level. you want some one who can to go all the way not some guy who hold back because he is unsure if you like him or not. Good Times :-)
2006-11-22 12:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by flydives 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said "I was in love with..", What about now? Do you still have feelings? Will pursuing this relationship make you happy . Then do it. BUT....Don't sell yourself short, and be waiting for him eternally.
Looks like you want to make up your mind and need a clear answer, otherwise this situation will nag you forever...with the "what if I have xxxx..?"
If he pulls another stunt like this, like disappearing, not having time for you, maybe he does not have the time and desire to explore the possibility of relationship with a wonderful nice girl. His loss.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-22 12:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by GrandMamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt have time for you? you mean hang out time or talk time? thats what you should get straight before you decide anything.
when i was going out with my old love, he told me flat out that he was too busy to see me or hang out as much because of school. sounds like a good reason to let him have his space. so i did. then later he blamed me for not trying to keep up the relationship, and thats why we got out of touch. guys are confusing people. they say that they dont have "time" for you but they still want to talk to you.
so i guess talk to him, but wait until he brings up hanging out before you jump onto it yourself.
ALSO make sure that hes not just using you for when the time is right for HIM. thats a mistake that ive made before, and before long you should let him go (if he keeps doing this over and over again).
=).
2006-11-22 12:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly explain to him that he inclined for you to never tlak to him again. When you didn't he got mad and thats not right. Dont give him the same treatment he gave you just simply tell him what he did to you was wrong and see if things get better.
2006-11-22 12:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hakeinitz: This guy is playing pure mind-games with your head. The onus was on him to contact you. Go fishing in another pond - this guy's a jerk - plain and simple. He doesn't want you around or he would of made the first move. You caught him off guard and he is pretending that it's YOUR fault. Good luck to you.
2006-11-22 12:21:25 · answer #11 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋