can a guy date a girl who is 9 years older than him?

Question

I am 20

Answer 1

yep, it's not illegal. may be weird, but not wrong. If you are happy, then so be it.

Answer 2

Yes... Im 27 (28 in 5 days) and my boyfriend is 25. I know its not 9 years but...
I have to say this... unless I was blown away by a really mature 20 year old, I would have reservations about dating such a younger man. Mainly because of the maturity factor but not all 20 year old men are the same. I say go for it!

Answer 3

Yes, a guy can date an older woman. Just be aware that she won't have the tolerance for your silly stuff that a girl closer to your own age would. The advantage is she's old enough to know what she wants in life and probably won't jerk you around either... I'd say go for it.

Answer 4

Yes. It is perfectly fine. Age is really a umber. Sometimes people in different age brackets and are in the same environment do have a lot in common. Just remember if she's into going out to clubs and drinking theat may put a slight damper on things because you are not 21.

Answer 5

Sure you can date someone 9 years older than you just because your a guy it doesn't mean you can't. I dated someone much older than me.

Answer 6

Absolutely!

I was 22 and dated a woman who was 45. I loved her style and her spirit and her well toned workout everyday body. I wanted someone who wanted a serious relationship not just a short fling but she had a drinking problem and it got to the point where she became paranoid and accussed me of just wanting her to be my "Mrs. Robinson" it offended me and when she saw that she did offend me she refused to see me saying she was ashamed and stopped going to clubs and bars and avoided me at all costs and finally moved away. I haven't seen her since but i always think of her because my wife reminds me of how she used to be.

When i was 21 i dated a girl who was 29 we were friends with benefits for about 2 years until she found someone who wanted to settle down. It was that event that got me into the idea to maybe find someone myself who i could stick with.

I'm now 35 and my wife is 39.

Answer 7

I work with a guy who is 41 and is dating a 21 year old girl he works with. Been doing this for 3 years, and going strong, lucky guy!

Answer 8

I don't think age is an issue now. What's important is that you two get along well. As we all get older, the effect of the age gap becomes less and less anyway.

Look at Demi and Ashton. They have a really huge age gap but they're happy.

Go for it! Good Luck!

Answer 9

Oh heck yeah ! If you feel her in your soul let it be. (there is always a but) Her friends, social functions,your jealousy of older well off men,going out without you,guys hitting on her.Look at it this way, what does she stand to loose without you?and vise versa. Think ahead get yours in life and relations will follow if it is ment to be it will be. She will never get over the feeling of age differance when in front of certain people.

Answer 10

Of course you can! Since women generally live about 9 years longer than men, it means you'll die at around the same time. But who cares what we think, it's your friends and family you should worry about, because that's your personal society. Society in general doesn't find it bad though.

Answer 11

That depends. If you're like, 11 and she's 20......then NO! But I assume that the two of you are much older than that. That should be fine, but it might be uncomfortable at times...I don't know, I'm only 13 and dont' know how to help you!