he's a VERY nice guy and i love him a lot, but we've had our problems. i broke it off and he turned to drugs and alcohol, im afraid if i go out with him again and it doesnt go right it will happen again. im also not sure if i should just live up the single life but i dont want to loose him. what should i do?
2006-11-22 11:38:13 · 48 answers · asked by Carrie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
anyone who is abusing alcohol or other drugs will not likely be in a good frame of mind. he also won't likely be able to handle a relationship.. i think this is doomed to failure until he gets off the drugs.. you'd be better off being a good friend first.. encourage him to get odd the drugs.. but don't get romantically involved until he cleans himself up. if he can't love himself, he'll never truly love you.
2006-11-22 12:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes your ex for a reason. it didnt work out the first time and it sounds like if he turned to drugs and alcohol that may not be something that you want in your life. just think about all the things he put you through before and how the breakup went do you really want to go through all that again? and just out of curiosity are you happier without him? dont fall into breaking up and getting back together routine - it just causes too much drama. if your problems were big enough to break up over dont count on much changing. live it up there are plenty of other guys out there. you may be best as friends with the ex
2006-11-22 11:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs and alcohol ..... sounds like he's a little unbalanced to me .... yeah I know you love him ... but do you really think this is the guy for you???...
If he put as much effort into winning you back or sorting out your problems as he did into the whole drug and alcohol abuse thing then I'd say at least he tried ... but the way he went was just a cop-out
2006-11-22 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well in a relationship there is always a scare about something going wrong but if you really love the person you will be willing to give it a shot and be willing to make the mistake. yeah i know its hard to get threw things like this mostly because there is a risk of him getting into drugs an stuff. but when you get back with him or if you are willing to take the chance just talk to hima bout it and tell him if anything ever goes wrong ont get yourself into all that bad stuff anymore because just because the relationship isnt there doesnt mean that the love of friendship is gone because i still care. he will most likely unerstand.
2006-11-22 11:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that makes your own decisions. By this I mean dont turn ro drugs and alcohol if it dosent work out. Theres plenty of fish in the sea. Open your eyes to new opportunities but if you really love him go back with him and make it work!
2006-11-22 11:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit desperate and like he likes you a lot. If there's one thing I know about relationships, especially relationships like this, it's that they're a lot of work. Sure you get presents and maybe people saying you're a cute couple and someone to drag places or sit on the couch with, but they're EXHAUSTING! I mean, when you're single, you're lovely and free, so when you do find someone to tie yourself down with you need to find someone who isn't going to be such a lot of work. Yes, love is all that matters in some cases, but love too, is exhausting. Maybe if you manage to make him do most of the work. You sound like a nice girl, so make sure he pours his soul into you and lets you relax. You certainly don't deserve the stress of such a weak and emotional person who turns to drugs and alcohol so easily, so make sure he isn't going to worry you like that again.
2006-11-22 11:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do not go back out with him. If he;s on drugs and alchol then he has major problems and you don't need to be involved with that. Live up the single life, you'll find someone else.
2006-11-22 12:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of very nice guys who are substance abusers. You need to get out of this losing situation. Of course he'll drink again, or use again. Men say anything when they want to get in your pants. So do alcoholics. This is a bad situation, distance yourself from it.
2006-11-22 11:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try it again....try this. Sit down and discuss things that can improve your relationship before trying again. Talk about the things that you would like to have improvements in and that if at anytime you think that he is doing drugs or drinking that it will be over. Communication is important in a good relationship and if you discuss things where improvement is needed you let eachother know where the problems lye and how you guys can improve on that.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 12:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to lose a person with a drug and alcohol problem? I don't understand that.
I think you really need to be single for awhile and decide what you want in your life.
2006-11-22 11:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋