We have been dating for 3 weeks and things have been great! He has told me he feels very deeply for me and then all of a sudden he asked for some space to think. Help!!
2006-11-22 11:31:20 · 23 answers · asked by lisad20120 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
3 WKS, THAT'S IT!!! Damn girl... I advise you to date while you wait.
2006-11-22 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by brit_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) first of all I wouldn't say "he's your man" after only 3 weeks.
2) change "space to think" to "space" and you'll have a better picture..
- space is a guy thing... we need our space and we need our "cave" to just be without outside anything.. don't know why but it's generally known and accepted.
3) YOU ON THE OTHER HAND
- are entitled to a life and should not be expected to sit around waiting for him to make a decission about a relationship with you...
- you have a right to know what he is thinking about... so ask!
- two to three days is pleanty of time for him to decide what he wants. He should have known already..
4) If he really just needs some "me time, aka space), then let him have it... That doesn't mean you can't go out and have a good time on your own or even with another guy if you want.. YOU'RE NOT MARRIED ya know...
- Enjoy life as a single... live live live!
2006-11-22 20:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like your guy is on the rubber band stage. Sometimes, a guy needs some time off in a relationship... it's nothing serious really, they just want to retreat into their caves and take a breather alone like just spend the whole day playing an online game (something he's stopped doing ever since you guys got into a relationship) or shoot some hoops and do guy stuff. That way they can think clearly and assess their situations and if the guy is a keeper, he'd have thought of how to love you better by the end of his caveman days.
So give him what he asks; he'll appreciate it. In the meantime, give yourself the day off too. Hang out with your friends and do girly stuff. Go and have a great new look so when you're guy comes back, he'll have more reason to think "What the hell was I thinking? I shouldn't have left my girl like that. Back off amigo!" Going out and doing the things you love will keep your mind off the downtime rather than moping around and pretending to be patient. And if the guy doesn't come back, well, you're having way too much fun to even think about it, aren't you?
2006-11-22 19:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by cookie_cola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sort of sounds like he might have met someone else. What would he need to think about after only three weeks? And why would he need space? I think you should give him space and take some space for yourself. Take a few steps back and look at the situation. You deserve to be treated with a certain amount of respect and I think he could at least give you an explanation. If you can't get one, move on. Don't be the one to sit and wait, just to find out that he may have moved on. Good Luck girl.
2006-11-22 19:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have an "exclusive" relationship, I'd start dating other people and put yourself back out there. If you don't have an "exclusive" thing going on I'd give it a week or so and move on. If someone isn't sure they want to be with you, you can help resolve the issue easily by going forward with your personal life. If he decides in the end he wants to continue, at least you won't have been sitting home alone worrying & wondering what he will do/say. If he doesn't, well, you'll already be back on track to meet someone new if you like.
2006-11-22 19:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs space after only 3 weeks, then that is a bad sign. He may be trying to let you down easy. Give him 3 more weeks, and if it is not the kind of relationship you want, move on.
2006-11-22 19:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing things got hot, stayed hot for a bit, then cooled off like ice water. No one feels "very deeply" about anyone after 3 weeks. He hasn't been around long enough to need space to think about "things." He's distancing himself from you. Do yourself a favor, let him.
2006-11-22 20:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just gieve him the space he needs. It's best to take relationships slow. The guy I have been seeing since August and I are still in an "undefined relationship" because we both want to take things slow, as we both got out of longterm relationships in which we were living with the person.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that sometimes it is best to take things slow. Your partner might be scared of getting hurt or that things are going to fast. Give it time, take things slow, and be happy with what you have.
Good luck and (((HUGS)))
2006-11-22 19:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O-M-G we totally need to have a talk im going through the same thing but mine is a 2 yr and 1/2 relationship so heres my e-mail claudiav_reyes@yahoo.com
2006-11-22 19:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just like my realtionship that happened and now we been together for 2 years its hard for a boy to admit to thereselves that they want a realtionship with a beautiful girl its hard for a guy, but put it like dis he's preparing his self think of the best i promise
2006-11-22 19:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by !!yentruoc!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the old "committment jitters" ... if you want to be with this guy might not hurt to give him a day or two to decide what it is he wants from your relationship ... just don't give him too much time .. if he can't sort himself out in 2 days ... he aint worth it Hun .....
Go find someone who knows his heart and wants to be with you
Good Luck :)
2006-11-22 19:33:35 · answer #11 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋