Seriously, I'm getting so tired of it! We have to go around and hug and kiss everyone when we get there and again when we leave. It's so fake and annoying but we feel obliged because everyone goes in for the hug!
2006-11-22 11:30:32 · 21 answers · asked by Jaclyn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Haha I like the pretend I'm sick thing. I would intentionally expose myself to the flu to be sick for real and skip it all :)
2006-11-22 11:37:27 · update #1
Lots of sympathy here for you. I only hug immediate family and dogs by choice.
When you get there, try to walk in with other arriving guests, then act like you REALLY need to pee and beeline for the bathroom. Most of the potential maulers have short attention spans and if you don't hug them immediately, they forget about it.
You can also be the first people there and help out in the kitchen or something until everyone has arrived and settled in.
If someone comes to you with that gleam in their eyes, tell them you've been looking for them and just had to ask them a question. Grab their hands while speaking. Distract them and make them feel important.
If someone has a baby, ask to hold it. They're less likely to accost you if they see a tiny human in your arms.
Good luck!
2006-11-22 11:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a tattoo of a spider beside your mouth. Use the temporary ones that wash off with soapy water. I bet that gets a lot of stares your direction, but the hugs and kisses might be a bit less constricting - and I bet the kisses stop altogether.
Get your lips pierced and wear large lip adornments. Actually, this can be accomplished with magnets to give the illusion that your lips are pierced.
Wear a spiked collar.
Refuse to attend such events. I don't believe people should have to attend events that make them feel uncomfortable - no matter who is having it or how many years it has been the tradition. Family or not, you have the right to pursue happiness and the hugs and kisses offend you. Bow out and stay home.
2006-11-22 13:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by north79004487 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad they want to hug you. Some families don't even speak, much less get together. Your fiance's family is one who likes to hug. Some families don't. Personally, I like the hugs.
If you don't like it, and they are zeroing in to kiss you on the mouth, move your head slightly so they kiss you on the cheek--that way, you kiss them on the cheek, too. But give them the hug!
And don't use the "cold" excuse! You can't get away with that all the time! And if you always keep your distance from them, you will look like a snob. I'm sure you don't want that!
If this seriously bothers you THAT much, maybe you are marrying into the wrong family.
Have a great holiday season!
2006-11-22 12:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't avoid it. I do know exactly how you feel though because my husbands family are the same way. I agree it is totally fake! Especially when there are some people that you don't particularly care for that much and most of them you hardly ever see except on holidays etc. I dread it each time. I don't mind kissing and hugging the people that I actually do care about and like but having to go round kissing everyone is unpleasant. I feel for ya!
2006-11-22 12:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you on this. I am not one who likes hugging or kissing for that matter. My husbands family does the same thing. I usually start the hugging thing and when it gets to much I stand from far away and I say hello and turn my head slightly. My husband says I always look so awkward. It does seem so fake. Good luck I will think of you tommorow when I am doing the same thing.
2006-11-22 12:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you to lie, and just tell them you have a cold (if you can act one)
but I dont want you to lie, so I think you just don't go for the hug nor kiss, a simple shake to everyone (nore more than 2 seconds) would do fine, and try as much as possible to shake a person's hand, and then move on to the other without giving him/her a chance to hug nor kiss you
2006-11-22 11:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by AG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apply makeup to make it look as if you have a cold sore. I would. I don't like hugging let alone kissing. I don't need other peoples germs I have my own. Or even better just wear a blendable bandaid around your lip. I know it's not the prettiest but.... if duty calls.
2006-11-22 12:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone goes in for a hug, try the Howie Mandel thing, and go for the fist bump. Be careful, as you may end up punching someone in the gut :)
2006-11-22 11:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one of "them" approaches you, hold out both hands and give the person a warm, two-handed handshake. By keeping your hands out in front, it blocks them from zeroing in for the hug or kiss. Tell them you're glad to see or meet them, and strike up a brief conversation if they hang on too long.
2006-11-22 11:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you see one of them closing in on you, just extend your hand like a sword to fend them off. Don't allow them to close in on you.
When you get ready to leave, casually make your way to the door and at the last possible minute, when your hand is turning the door knob, say, "Goodnight everyone!", and beat it out the door.
I'm with you. I don't like the kissing with who knows how many cooties coming with the slobbering. Ick!
2006-11-22 11:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋