should i break up with her?

Question

i've been with a girl for a year and a half now and hse is consistently being ignorant and selfish. she wants everything her way or no way. i have to be with her 24/7. and i mean that literally. and if i'm not with her, then i need to be on the phone with her. she is always thinking i'm doing something i shouldn't be doin. it's really getting annoying. what should i do? break up with her or lay down the law and tell her that there are gonna be some changes in our relationship?

Answer 1

Maybe there is a reason she wants you around so much. Are you making sure she feels appreciated? Perhaps she is trying to force affection out of you, because she doesn't receive it in the normal way.

I'm sure that she would relax if you showed that you care.

Answer 2

First of all, did you ever stop and think maybe you are pushing to hard by wanting to be with her 24/7 and phoning her. Maybe you should back off a little with that.

Instead of "laying down the law" with her, which is kind of a bad choice of words, why not just come out and ask her why she acts like she does. Maybe she is trying to tell you something.

If she won't give you an answer, or tries to turn it into an argument, I'd just tell her that it's not going to work out and move on.

Answer 3

I dated a girl like this back in my college days in the 90's and I just layed down the law with her and she finally got the picture. And yes it does have to work both ways 50-50. If she has to be so controlling in this manner than let her go. But if you two can talk about it and you come upon an agrrement on something then make it work out.

Answer 4

She sounds like a very insecure, controlling, selfish, jealous person. I think before you break up you should have a serious talk with here about the why she is acting and treating you. Give her a chance first to correct the problem. Let her know that the way she is acting is really annoying you and if she doesn't change, you have no choice to break up with her. If she still continues to act that way then I say break it off with her.

Answer 5

if you cant do anything without her and she needs to know your every move she has some trust issues (maybe from a past relationship and you are getting the bad end of the stick)there is no way someone can be together 24/7 you need room to breathe.you should let her know how you feel first and let her know that you are with her and her only and she has to give you some room to breathe if she cant understand that then you should dump her.if she cant trust you enough to give you some space then you will never have a healthy relationship.

Answer 6

your best bet would be to talk to her first about changing a few things around in the relationship, but of course if she is not willing to change and is going to continue being an ignorant and selfish little cow, then yes, you need to break up with her because she is bringing you down. I mean you are only dating but it sounds like you are a married couple the way she is treating you, so talk to her, if she's not going to co-operate then break up with, for your own good. Good luck! =)

Answer 7

i think that is too much for you, its like she dont trust you, she need give u some space. its seem like she dont want give u some space, well i guess u and her need space for a bit, because its cant be with someone 24/7 that is too much for you...u listen to ur heart, not mind want be break up or give some space? i am sorry for the way she treate u

Answer 8

Try telling her there needs to be some changes in your relationship first, then if it doesn't work break up with her. Who needs someone on your back all the time. Good luck.

Answer 9

try laying down the law first. she sounds like she has some insecurity issues as well. and she sounds like a control freak, you definitely don't want that. but just tell her how you feel and give her an ultimatum. if she is still selfish about it, then let that broad go!

Answer 10

First speak to her. Tell her that you think she may have some control/ jealousy issues, and that if she doesn't trust you than your relationship can't be. Then break up with her if she doesn't change. There are other fish in the sea, you'll both live.

Answer 11

Break up with her. She's definetely too controlling and wants to be the center of attention. A relationship should go both ways...you shouldn't bow down to whatever she wants.