2006-11-22 11:19:44 · 15 answers · asked by shermynewstart 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm missing my little sister who committed suicide in August. The holidays were HER season...she loved them. Can't wait until the next year or two has gone by. I won't miss her any less, but hopefully the pain will diminish with time.
As far as hating the holidays... I do! I have a family that either plans things the night before which aggravate me and I find inconsiderate or, they want to do a huge meal extravaganza that takes two days to prepare and another entire day to clean up after. It just isn't feasible with everyone working and running amok before the holidays. Everyone bitches about it but no one wants to change to an easier routine or newer traditions.
2006-11-22 12:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by L R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I miss my deceased family members. That is completely normal. I used to hate holidays also until I came to the conclusion that holidays are a time to enjoy and be thankfull for the good in our lives and they wouldn't want me to suffer like this. I'm thankfull for the memories I have of the ones that are gone and the time I did have with them. What I found also helps me is to be with other family members and friends and talk about the good memorys and the fun and crazy things we did together. Everyone has lost someone. It's not long and we are smiling, laughing and having a very good time. I also talk to the deceased one and tell them I miss them and still and always will love you. Do you think I'm crazy? Well don't knock it until you try it. If you can, don't be alone during this time. You desearve to live and have fun. Go buy yourself a plant and nourish it like it is your deseased family. Talk to it too. It will grow to be very nice because of your love. Good luck. You will be okay. It takes time.
2006-11-22 20:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Hinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! I miss my dad he passed away 3 1/2 years ago & I miss my father in law (Deceased 1 1/2 years ago). He used to come over and smell the turkey cooking all day. Since my mother in law doesn't celebrate holidays he would be over for Thanksgiving dinner every year. It's weird not to have him here eating dinner with us.
2006-11-22 23:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we lost my husbands sister last Feb. She was only 49. It was a tragic accident in a car. We are all still going to her home to celebrate and give thanks. You see she left behind 3 young adults. 21 23 and 25. She did most of the cooking and we are all trying to still do it her way. We only have a problem cause we can't bake pies like she did. Her daughter is trying and we went to a bakery. The other thing that will be missed is her homemade cranberry jelly. The can stuff will do. We will have our dinner prayer and a toast in her honor. Life goes on and her kids are so excited we are all still coming. Holidays still come make new traditions. Got to keep the kids going too.
2006-11-22 20:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure most of us have loved ones we will miss on Thanksgiving...and on other holidays as well. But I have learned to accept the fact that the older I get, the more people have gone on. I love the holidays because I have such nice memories of times when we were together and I know I will be with them again someday in God's heaven and then we will never have to miss them again.
2006-11-22 20:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always celebrate holidays by having deceased family members pictures on the piano which sits in our dining room. My daughter brings her mother-in-laws ashes to almost every family party to celebrate in spirit with us. She was always there with the family when she was alive...she's just more compact now..I can just hear laughing over that joke up in heaven..Our grandchildren have decorated her container with pictures..they really loved her. this way I think they miss her less and it honors her contribution to this family. Holidays are how we enjoy and celebrate life. Enjoy what you have in this world, enjoy your loved ones, use these times to let them know how much you care for them...DON"T hate the holidays, be thankful for them, we have too few of them. Good luck.
2006-11-22 20:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I miss my Dad. I'm only 40, and am way too young to be without a Dad, he was much too young to die. I do love the holidays though, I have two new daughters and another on the way. My Daddy's legacy.
2006-11-22 20:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am missing my grandfather he died the week before Thanksgiving 2 yrs ago I really miss him. He was a really funny man and I was really close with him
2006-11-22 19:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother. She was like a mother to me and the only one I could ever REALLY talk to. There will never be someone like that I can trust again. I truly feel your pain! I don't do well with holidays either. I just try to do homework or something and pretend its just another day. Sad, but true.
Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone!
2006-11-22 19:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Mom two years ago and my Dad 7 years ago. Now my sister's children are grown and not coming home. My own children are grown but will be here. It is not quite the same when the relatives start to pass away. The fun seems to fade away.
2006-11-22 19:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋