i feel like a big loser...:(?

Question

I feel like i big loser....i used to be happy and smiley and smart, and have people like me and tonight i feel like i've turned into this big loser... :(.... im not the same person...i know people change and its a good thing but i feel as if ive changed for the worse........im learned a big lesson today on why it is so important to speak up for urself bc u cnat compromist your morals and values and if people dont like u so what i learned so much.......and i feel like i through out the whole lesson.....and now for some reason feel like a big loser... i dont want to go out... i feel like my boyfriend is going to dump me i just feel down on myself like never felt before.......whta is wrong with me ?!?!?!

Answer 1

Dear Downhelps:

It seems like you are feeling this way mainly because of a boyfriend who may be acting as if he is losing interest in you. Is this correct?

In our human personalities we express many different things. We are able to succeed sometimes, be smiley sometimes, win friends sometimes and so forth. But we also can meet up with opposition, limitations and those who pull their friendship away from us. The human personality goes thru many changes. It is always shifting, changing, and altering. It is never stable and on an even level.

Our souls or spirit behind our human personality is the seat of higher thoughts, self-love and love of others. It is unchangeable, never alters or shifts in it's position or outlook. It is capable of withstanding the lack of love from outside of itself. This means that inside of YOU is something CERTAIN about itself. It loves, it thinks highly of itself (because it is God's Created Child) and it knows every brother in the universe has the same Self or soul within them, too ! If the human personality changes and thinks it no longer loves or it no longer likes another, the soul within that person still loves or likes the other. Soul knows nothing but love and liking. For it is like God in how it thinks.

When the soul through the human turns itself over to love and suddenly finds itself lacking the loved one's interest, in it's wisdom it does not cling. As the seat of wisdom and love, itself, it knows when to let go and release the other. BUT, it knows that it can produce more love for itself simply because it desires it, and is open to having it and can produce more of it again. The spirit within has self-esteem, because it is connected to God Who puts high value on it.

Value your ability to produce love over and over again in your lifetime. Have the strength of wisdom to release those who need to be released and to know - their changing feelings are part of their personality. We do not have to be hurt or harmed by those who go back and forth in their feelings. Or those who we have cared about more than they cared for us. Sometimes, our human minds like to punish us and tell us we weren't enough to hold onto love or friendship. But it is telling us a lie. And, we don't have to listen to it.

YOU are an Eternal Being. God made no losers. He made us like Himself: strong in love, willing to let go, when necessary, to honor the Free Will of his Children. He is in a constant state of knowing that He produces love ceaselessly by Creating it.

We create it also! We produce it over and over in our lifetimes too! There is someone else coming for you when you smile again and make more friends. You brought this friend toward yourself, didn't you? Well, why not bring another to yourself? You have power. You have ability to attract and bring to yourself what you desire and think about. Do not give up your power just because someone wants to move on. . .. Cause another friendship, be part of another love. We do learn lessons from our loves. They are valuable if they do not knock you down! Take the good out of those lessons and USE IT. Take the rest of what is in those lessons and throw it away!

YOU did not suddenly become unworthy, unlovable or unlikeable because someone else's personality did not show you consistent feelings. You are still YOU. You gave your boyfriend power over you. Now take it back! In time, you will stop missing him. I promise you that.

Best regards, Lana

Answer 2

You're going to feel better. Sometimes we can be high on the mountain top and then the next thing we know we're down in the valley. But you have a reason to hold your head up high...you did something that takes courage and you are just being attacked by the negative forces that are not pleased at your boldness of truth...things will get better...this will pass....

Answer 3

Hey i used to feel like that. but then i just said the hell with everyone else and just think about what is right for u and if that doesn't work make a list of all the positive things about your self.

Answer 4

seasonal depression.... i have the same thing and a few years ago it got BAD! it looks like its gonna be bad again this year.. so to help i usually tan in a tanning bed, beleive it or not, it helps, or i start a new hobby, like i'm restoring a truck right now. just find things you like to do.

Answer 5

Did you eat your regular meals? Get enough sleep? Drink water? Get exercise? If there's nothing you can do about your mistake, do something to refresh yourself. God can only save sinners, and He can only use people who realize that on their own they are not so great.

Answer 6

dont worry it'll get better, i'll keep you in my prayers

"the cure to pain of the heart, is love of god"
-Prophet Muhummad PBUH

Answer 7

wow thats strange, i felt the exact same way yesterday. i just dealt with it though

Answer 8

Your DEPRESSED, we all get this way from time to time, get into your hobby and let it pass.

Answer 9

Ur depressed.. : (