I been in a relationship 4 about a year & 1/2 with my boyriend. We grew up together and we both have a child by other people. Now he talks with his babies mother on the phone and goes over her house and spends time with his daughter and her family...Now I told him that I don't want him speaking to her about anything else besides his daughter.. its no reason they should be on the phone all hours of the day talking about the weather and the latest cars...And I also told him i dont want him going over there spending time with her family because now hes in a new relationship with me... He should be coming over my familys house getting to know my family... And I feel since we are a couple... Where ever he goes I should be able to go to and vice versa. I want to know with this situation are my expectations to high. I mean I know that they r always gonna have to deal with each other but if the conversations are not pertaining to his daughter then there is nothing else for them to talk about.
2006-11-22 11:00:24 · 5 answers · asked by CARAMEL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He hasn't gotten over his ex completely.
You stated that you told him about speaking with his ex about non-child related issues, but it seems like he is not paying attention to it. He may need to be reminded that if his current relationship is going to work, he needs to get over the past one.
2006-11-22 11:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be my feelings on the subject. They have a child together. Any interaction they have with one another should revolve primarily around that child. Should they be on good terms? It'd be better for the child if they were but talking all hours of the night and spending an excessive amount of time at her families is too far. You need to have a long talk with your boyfriend about this situation and where it's going.
2006-11-22 19:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be great parents you first have to be good friends. Now, in saying that, if she's calling him all the time and she's talking to him about relationship type stuff then you should be leery, however, if they have an established friendship then you shouldn't trip. Is he disrespecting you? Does she know about you? Have you spent time with his daughter? If the answers to the last two questions are yes, then just chill and see what happens. One thing that I know. What is done in the dark always comes to the light eventually. Just chill.
2006-11-22 19:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower your expectations! I really sense some baby momma drama is going to emerge if you don't nip this in bud quick! He needs to respect your wishes but also you need to trust him. You need to talk to him about how you feel about this because the next thing you know you will end up some talk show and really get your heart broken. I hope everything works out. :)
2006-11-22 19:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not like they can't be friends. and no u don't have high expectations. u are a couple so should spend time together. maybe when he goes over he should let u come with too.
2006-11-22 19:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋