My dad is an idiot!?

Question

I have one sister that my dad bought a cheap car for a few years ago, then she traded it in for a nicer car and got it financed with my mom's help, and now she lives in her own apartment who she is also getting help paying for from her boyfriend and my parents pay for her insurance. Meanwhile i live at home with my parents and they have two cars. My dad refuses to give me any one of those two cars, and won't even buy a car for me although he did for my sister. I can't even afford one, b/c im having to pay my own insurance, credit card bill, laptop for school, gas, books for school, and whatever else comes my way. I can't even go out of town with any of those two cars, and can't transfer to any other university because he is such an idiot, what am i suppose to do? I can't work anymore than i already do because of my school schedule...

Answer 1

If this is your biggest complaint against your dad, consider yourself lucky. Some dads are of the mindset that it'll be harder for daughters then it will be for sons to get started in life once they are out of the nest. That's just the way it is. Not saying it's right, but that's reality. Have you proven yourself as a responsible person? Do you get really good grades? Has he done a lot for you so far (maybe was very encouraging in sports you played in high school or did a lot of father/son things with you that he didn't do with your sister?). Have you asked him why he won't help you out with a car? I'd like to know the answer to that.

Answer 2

I know that it seems unfair to you that your sister has received more help than you have, but as a parent, I know that parents help their children depending upon what the child needs at the time. I always told my children that they shouldn't expect the exact same help as the other one got since it would depend upon the child and the situation. It sounds as though you are going to college. Are your parents paying your tuition? Are you getting room and board from them also? Did your sister go to college? If she didn't, perhaps they feel that helping you to go to college and helping her with a car and insurance equals out. You should concentrate on getting a degree and then a good job. After that, you won't have to worry about getting help from your parents or a boyfriend because you will be an independent and self-sufficient person. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to begin thanking your parents for all they do for you instead of whining about not having a car. And stop calling your dad an "idiot" -- he is probably smarter than both his daughters put together.

Answer 3

Hmmmm, well, Darlin', it sounds as though your screen name covers a lot..."Me." It seems to be all about you, all right.

So, you want a car, on top of a home, food, and parental concern, huh? What can you do to convince the "Idiot" to give you a car? Did your Dad earn the money for those cars? Have your parents neglected your needs? How old is your sister? How old are you? What have you done to convince them that you are a responsible person who has earned a car?

Keep firmly in mind, little one, your parents don't OWE you a car. Grow up some more, show your Dad the respect he is due, and then present your case to your parents with a workable solution to how you can make the payments on a car...and lay off that credit card once you've paid it off.

Good luck, kid.

Answer 4

Lighten your load at school and take on a part time job.
Apply for financial aid and let them know that your dad will not support you.
I went to a UC for 5 years with that recipe. majored in physics and Comp Sci and had a job 4 out of the five years.
It CAN be done. And at the end you'll be that much better off and not owe your dad anything.
And you sister will either end up homeless or married to a giant a'hole with a lot of money. Either way, the special treatment she is getting now will work to her disadvantage in the long run.
Overall though dude, you don't have it that bad. You're lucky you can even go to college.

Answer 5

i can totally understand. just be patient. there's not much you can do except prove yourself to him with your work and your achievements. you'll feel a lot better when after some time you get your own car and travel as much as you like. you're still young and have time to spend on such things. i think the most annoying thing for him would be to ignore him. it's not the lack of wheels that makes you angry right now but his behavior showing more attention to your sister. f... support and do it by yourself!!! YOU CAN

Answer 6

How about you just forget trying to get a car from your father and just save up a little money buy yourself a little beater for the time being. You should be able to get something real cheap at an local city car auction until you can afford to get yourself something nice.

Answer 7

be reasonable. try talking to him without getting emotional and explain your side of the story. Maybe he just isn't considering things from you perspective. Or maybe you need to think about why he isn't getting you a car. Maybe you're less responsibke than your sister (don't get annoyed with me here and just consider what I'm saying here). The reason why my mother bought me a car is because I'm not likely to take it for granted, whereas my brother didn't get one from my mother becasue he's less responsible and way more immature.

Answer 8

Thats not fair. look find you a good fulltime job and save up at least 800 dollars and put down on a nice car and make the payments yourself! show them you can do it. dont depend on them for nothing!! what goes around comes around. do it yourself. i hope things get better for you!

Answer 9

Methinks he could let ya use 1 of those 2 cars

Answer 10

Have a family meeting and discuss your problem with him favoring your sister and not doing anything for you. Put your foot down, make your argument bold and clear.