i love this guy but he ont even know that yet. he hasnt told me and i am not going to tell him un till he tells me first. but he dont give me the attention i need. i dont know what i should do to keep him interested. can you give me ideas.
2006-11-22 10:55:12 · 11 answers · asked by kristi h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some more information would be nice. So is he a huge, huge crush? I'm just going to assume that, because it's what most people ask about. I once asked my mother about this type of problem, and she said "You know what Jenny, you don't initiate things enough". I was insulted, but in a sense I was right. The problem with our society today is we always expect the other person to initiate everything, both women AND men do this. However, in the movies, men always do all the work and it's a bit of a shame that they don't always do this in real life. In the book "He's just not that into you" the author explains that women always make up excuses for men who do this, and that's why they act like this and if a man truly likes you he will initiate things. Now, I'm not saying you should rush out and scream "I love you" or shower him with gifts. A man not showing his affection is always a dangerous thing, but it could just mean that he doesn't know (that you like him). So what is there to do with things like that? Sadly, the advice I can give is simply the usual, but this usual advice is given because it is the only advice that really has a chance at working.
1. Wear some cute makeup, eyeliner, mascara, bright purple eyeshadow (purple in India is supposed to be a lucky color to wear if you are worried about the outcome of a relationship) maybe some warm red lipbalm (this has scientifically been proven to make men look at your lips, and lipbalm is soothing and not as ridiculous as lipstick and creates more of a sense of balance with the eyeshadow), hairstyles, clothes, jewelry (just cute little accessories that stand out, not anything real), maybe some various benzoyl peroxide and sacylic acid related products and aveeno skin evening moisturizer(that evens your skin tone and makes you slightly tanner for a warm healthy glow), also wear some cute heeled boots if you live in a cold climate (only if there's enough of a height difference between you two, don't intimidate him) Even if you don't get the guy, you'll still have self confidence and be able to attract other guys.
2. Be slightly involved in things, get good grades, have a group of friends that are warm and bubbly surrounding you (they don't have to be popular, they just have to make you happy) from time to time. Look like you're having fun and have a great life! Then people will say "That *insert your name here*, isn't she great?" Be yourself, but just a bit louder and more vibrant! Even if you don't get the guy, you'll still be pretty interesting to other guys.
3. Talk to him. Seriously, what's the harm? Don't be too obvious about liking him, maybe look his screen name up on a facebook or myspace and make him guess who you are if shyness is a problem. Secret iming relationships are always fun, it's like Hilary Duff in "A Cinderella Story"... or just try talking to him whenever you get the chance. Try to ask about him and learn about him, make him sound interesting, don't compliment him TOO much and basic rules of flirting and conversation. Smile at him when you see him.
2006-11-22 11:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter who tell who what first. The important thing is that it is said, but if he is not giving you the attention you need and deserve then there is something seriously wrong and maybe it is time focus on what is important to you, you don't want to stay in a relationship that is going to go nowhere, talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel and let him that what he says and does is important to you. Tell him you would like to know what his feelings are as well, do what you feel you have to and what is right because you don't want to do anything that you will regret. So sometimes it is important to make your own calls.
2006-11-22 11:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really into you, you wouldn't have to do anything to keep his attention because you would already have it.
Let him chase you a little, don't make it too easy
2006-11-22 10:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u need to find someone who is willing 2 give u the attention..if he wuz rlly into u he would give u attention on his own..there is no special trick or idea 2 make a person want u.. good luck
2006-11-22 10:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by × 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why the heck am I in love with someone who doesn't love me.
2006-11-22 10:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by patrick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him for a bit. that usually works. don't give him the time of day. men usually want what they can't have.
2006-11-22 10:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by FunBetty! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple. Get him to notice and like you. You do that by showing skin.
Then ignore him. Guys like what they cant have, I swear.
2006-11-22 10:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by BigGori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date a friend of his, that'll get him off his butt REAL quick.
2006-11-22 10:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by latina_soldier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make someone love you, it is better to find someone who does then wait around.
2006-11-22 10:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by dirttrackfan33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a friend first, show him that u guys have a lot in common first
2006-11-22 10:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋