I've been dating a guy who claimed himself as a virgin and will not foul around with other girls. He, on the other hand, always make sex jokes. Is this normal? I mean i am a bit scared and do not want to trust him. When he told me that he wants to commit in this relationship but he might not able to do it because of his parents. And he had to restrain his feelings for me cus he is afraid he is going get hurt at the end. I decided to call it quit. And his voice began to change and (might be) started crying (?!?) He told me that he just wanted to be honest with me and said that he doesn't want me to get hurt too...blablabla...I felt sorry for him and i apologized.....I decided to stay him...but at the same time....i have this biggest fear that he is not serious with me......and i don't know whether i should trust him or not.....Was that an act he was doing? or Was it real??
2006-11-22 10:39:49 · 14 answers · asked by polinatora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, go with your gut. If you don't trust him, it doesn't matter how hard her cries! Relationships are based on trust, and if he's dating you for your body, well then don't even think about going out with him!
Do what's best for you
Good luck!
2006-11-22 10:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you guys are, but I am assuming that you're probably fairly young since you mentioned his parents.
He may very well be a virgin, but he might just make the sex jokes because he doesn't want everyone to know he is a virgin. Guys can be brutal with each other, and they always have to be the "big man" and act like they've done it all, when in reality, I bet he's not the only one out of his friends who is still a virgin.
As far as the trust issue goes, has he every done anything to make you NOT trust him? If he hasn't, then ask yourself why it is that you don't trust him. If he hasn't done anything to make you mistrust him, sometimes you just have to take a chance and see what happens.
Are you scared of being in a relationship with him? Does he like you more than you like him? Do you really NOT want to be with him, and are only staying with him because you don't want to hurt his feelings?
Be honest with yourself as to why you don't trust him.
2006-11-22 10:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dinner and a movie. No, this is not always true, but in your case it has the warning signs. He's crying, telling you he's a virgin and that he doesn't want to fool around...Babygirl, don't fool yourself into believing this mess. You already know something is up with his behavior go with it. Stay away from because he is a manipulator. If you are under age definitely tell your parents so that someone will have your back. If you are 18 or older tell your older brother...most brother like taking care of problems for their sisters. Take care. Trust your instincts!
2006-11-22 10:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he was being serious. IF a guy just wanted you for sex then he would all the time ask for it and get mad at you for saying no all the time ALL guys tell sex jokes all the time that is normal. The only way you will know if he just wants sex is just hold your ground and not have sex with him. If he is not presurring you to have sex then you have a good guy on your hands. IF you truely like him stay with him. If you do not then do not stay wih him. I feel like he was truely being honest with you. SO GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-22 10:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello he is playing a game. The poor me game. He already stated he may not be able to commit to you because of his parents. Obviously he is not going to try, as for the sex jokes, I have no idea if that is true that he is a virgin it sounds as though he is trying to manipulate the situation. Dump Him and move on he will find someone else and so will you.
2006-11-22 10:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your guts babe. It sounds to me like you have great instincts. Your Spider sense is tingling. Go with your instincts. I think his plan backfired on him when you called it quits. I'm a guy and I can't believe the crap guys pull to get sex from a caring girl. It's a power game to them. He's definitely acting.
2006-11-22 10:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm greatest realtionships are the ones with sex and no commitment. Oh and all guys ever want is sex its part of our genetic makeup, a relationship is just an inconvenience we endure.
2006-11-22 10:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't commit, commits and is overly suspicious (like too nice)
2006-11-22 10:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mara D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deny him sex for a couple months and see how he reacts
2006-11-22 10:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to go out
2006-11-22 10:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋