Should I try and contact her?

Question

A complicated situation. A friends with benefits relationship with 35 year old mother of 3 divorced with bipolar. She already had another friends with benefits relationship with another man who had been living with his girlfriend for 3 years. The mind games were:- 1-Telling me she was having sex with a person she met in nightclub but did not tell the other man 2-Going on dating websites to find other men and not telling other man (I thought this was ok as at least she was trying to find someone more suitable) 3-Deciding she didn't want sex with me, didn't want to date and was happy with relationship with other man I then informed the other man what she had been sleeping around (unacceptable i know but done in heat of moment)

It's been 3 months now and I'm thinking about ringing her and apologising for above and asking if we can be friends in a few months time. Do you think I should do this?

Answer 1

Leave her alone, she has more problems than you think.

Answer 2

First.... the bipolar is irrelevent... and its not that complicated. She had the same relationship with the other guy that she had with you... nobody committed to anything,...not you or her. And when she decided to commit to someone, you were just pissed off that it wasn't you. So you decided the rules should change and did something really spiteful.... it was uncalled for, unjustified, and the apology should have come a long time back... its a bit late now. Leave her alone.

Answer 3

Ok I kind of got lost reading it but do you relaly want to be friends with or have a relationship of this type? Also - why are u apologizing? She's the one that has been sleeping around.

Answer 4

You can try but dont be upset if she doesnt want to hear it...