If you went out with a guy for a while and then fell in love with him but he told you that he still is a virgin because he wanted to wait for the one who was really special to him even though he has really loved once before what would you think, and would it put you off in anyway or make you weary?
and when you both got to the bedroom together for the first time in the relationship, be it just for cuddling and kissing would you hope that you would both have sex or would you just ask him if he was willing to do it now?
2006-11-22 08:59:57 · 19 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, if you are one of the few men that would like to wait for the special girl to "give it up" to, then i applaud you. it actually makes you even more of a man.
Kssing and cuddling and making out should do just fine until you are ready.
stick with what your beliefs are and know that it is worth the wait...
2006-11-22 09:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a really highly sexed girl, & have been in a similar situation with a guy a few years back (though he wasn't so honest about his virginity at the time). I was honest with him, in sayin that I wanted sex. U could say I kinda pressurised him. I didn't go on about it, & it was him who eventually initiated it. I must reiterate however, that I was younger, & I didn't know he was a virgin. Anyway, thinkin about it now, I feel bad, & wouldn't like to think that I'd behave in the same way (though, who knows?)
On the plus side, he has told me since that it was a blessing cos at least I didn't keep him guessing about my intentions (plus, it was hot sex, hee hee). So, you should be as upfront as poss with your woman, & allow her the freedom to do the same. My guess is, if she knows the score, & sticks around, yeah, she'll be thinking about sex, not necessarily WANTING it, & u can do it whenever you are both ready.
Serious note: don't rush it. Much respect to you. I wish I'd left it a bit longer. I'm practically addicted these days.
2006-11-22 17:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would appreciate your honesty as i expect most females would. You can fall in love with someone, without the intercouse, kissess and cuddles are equally important in any relationship. Don't fell pushed into anything your not ready for, keep it for that special someone.
2006-11-22 17:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by flippling flishy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be put off by anyone who values their selves and wants to wait, hopefully marriage is what he is waiting on. If he wanted to wait why would there be a bedroom question? Otherwise, I would wait for him to talk to me and tell me that he is ready.
2006-11-22 17:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be happy with that & enjoy what we have so far & if it growed into a sexually relationship later that meant that it was suppose to happen. Sex is not everything but it is great when you are with someone that loves you for you.
2006-11-22 17:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you're waiting. Any girl who truely has feelings for you will respect your decision. When you feel ready just let things happen. Don't let anyone force you into the decision.
2006-11-22 17:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely wait until he was ready. If I really cared about him, I would realize that this was something important to him and would not want to ruin it for him.
I may still want sex and be horny, but I have self control!
2006-11-22 17:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves the guy she will respect him for his choice and not put any pressure on him. When the time is right it will happen go with the flow.......don't get too prescribed about it all.
2006-11-22 17:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the girl if she loves you she will understand. don't worry so much its ok to be a virgin. most girls respect it. she knows your not some sex freak or a player. good luck.
2006-11-22 17:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, honestly... i would feel a lil awkward just because its usually the guy who knows what he's doing... but i think after thinking it over i would be like "hey! time to take control and have fun..." ( only if the guy is ready tho)
2006-11-22 17:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by simms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋