will you go back and read my question called "Is this stretching it too far.........?" what are you're thoughts on this? I know that if I am patient and wait on God he will bring the right one along at the right time, but what happens if I can't get this person out of my mind? I've liked this guy since I was 10 (no joke) so sometimes I can't help but think that God is trying to tell me something. But then on the other hand he's an "on-off" kinda guy: sometimes all his attention is directed towards me and I catch him looking at me a lot but then other times it seems like he ignores me completely. What does this all mean? Confusion has taken over my mind and sometimes it's hard to focus on the things that really matter right now.
2006-11-22 08:58:46 · 9 answers · asked by dizzymisslizzy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
True love waits. The more endring or patience the better things will be if they are meant to be. Have fun and finish high school. If he is interested now he will really be interested then and there won't be anything hindering him. Don't put him in an uncomfortable position now. If he is a Christian guy he will understand just be nice and patient with him. Be a friend now in the future age will not matter but first decide what you are going to do after high school. Do not dictate your decision on where he will be so much as what you want to do....college, beauty school, travel or whatever. If he is the one he will show interest then.
2006-11-22 09:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by mrraraavis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If God was telling you something, you wouldn't be as confused as you sound.
Although he's been too old for you up until now, and will be for another year according to the law, (until you turn 18) don't go by the law. Consider if he believes the same as you ,if you join your life with his, how will it glorify God? How does he treat you? That should be a good ruler to measure whether or not to spend your life with him. If he ignores you at times, I would think on that. Do desire a husband that ignores you?, at all? Spend some time with God, and ask Him.
Another thing to consider, have you talked to your parents? If they love you like I love my children, and you trust them, you won't get bad advice.
Best wishes
2006-11-22 17:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by lost and found 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your word confusion. That is very important. When a relationship is right, there is no confusion. When it is right, you will feel peace, contentment and comfortable inside. When it is wrong, you will feel confusion and discomfort inside. That is the spirit trying to tell you what is right and what is wrong. Don't let passion be confused with love. When we love each other, we want that persons needs to be met and taken care of more than our own cares and needs. We want to be with each other and to sacrifice our own wants for theirs. One of the best pieces of advice I received when I was preparing for marriage was "if in doubt, don't". That is simple but true. You should enter marriage nothing doubting.
Your description tells me that you need to look elsewhere.
2006-11-22 17:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by rac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you're aware of this but God was never in the business of choosing our mates for us. Very few times in the Bible are marriages built on love. That was one of the first choices He gave man... He told Cain to go into the city and choose for himself a wife.
Im not saying you can't pray for "the right person" but creating a "right person" has never been in God's job description OR we would be told to divorce our non believing spouces and wait for whom God has chosen for us and we wouldn't be told to remain single if we can.
2006-11-22 17:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by impossble_dream 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Could be that because you have known each other as young people, it kinda turns into a brother/sister conflict. Pray to God. Pray your desire is His desire. If, this man is to be with you....he will. Just wait and thank God for each day.
2006-11-22 17:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by TCFKAYM 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this man is creating alot of chaos in your head and in your life.
I know your heart will hate this, but the Christian perspective (to me) always relates to what Jesus said or did. This makes me think most about when He said If an eye makes you do evil, cut it out. Better to serve God with one eye than try to serve Satan and God with two.
I'd say cut this guy out of your life.....completely.
Just my 2 cents
2006-11-22 17:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be patient, and stay focused on the right things. It will work out, I promise. Seriously.
2006-11-22 17:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by mclaumar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has nothing to do with it babe the guy just isnt into you at all.Take responsability for your own actions and give god a rest.
"Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them."
2006-11-22 17:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bearable 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it's God's will, there will be no stopping it.
When I was single, I clung to a verse. Afterwards I met my wonderful wife. I suggest this to all...
Matthew 6:33, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."
It really, really works. Try it.
2006-11-22 17:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Cosmo 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋