abused, taken advatage of and had my heart ripped out by countless women. I am now to the point where I dont even like them or want them for anything but sex. Is there light at the end or has too much damage been done?
2006-11-22 08:52:16 · 24 answers · asked by teenypurplebinky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way Miki, its cause of women like you I feel this way!
2006-11-22 08:54:26 · update #1
awww.. i'm sorry to hear that..
there are good and bad people in BOTH genders.. man or female. i'm sure there are many women who feel exactly the same way.
what u need to do is have some expectations. first from Urself: make sure u are a Great Guy, smart, good looking, confident, kind, respectable, etc etc. all positive qualities.
then, figure out what kind of woman u want: smart, beautiful, caring, friendly, etc etc etc.... and then go out and meet people. if anyone ever rubs u the wrong way, is jealous, rude, obnoxious, or Negative, than MOVE ON. don't get too close. that way, u are Watching what they SAY as well as how they ACT, and comparing the two, to help you figure out if this woman is a GOOD PERSON.
u are not only looking for a Woman.. u are looking for a Good Person. and therefore, u need to be one as well, so that u can attract like-minded people. and u cannot depend on another person to make u happy... it's part of it sure, but most important is that YOU independently on ur own are a Happy, Healthy, Positive person..that way, no matter what happens u can get back up again... and also, u will be strong enough to take care of someone else. that is what u should be working for, and then find someone who fits into your life seamlessly, and works just as hard as u do to be a Good Woman.
take care, and good luck to you~~~ alwyas remember, seek waht is Positive, Healthy, and Happy, and filter out the negatives. u will be fine~
2006-11-22 08:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from. You can't let those bad experiences ruin it for every other one! Sit back and see where it all begins to turn. What is it that you allow, say, do, don't do, that lets them have their way with you? When you find that, try to handle the situation differently then you normally would, and see what happens. Don't just use women for sex. All women aren't like those women, nor are they responsible for what went down then. Maybe it's the girls you go after- try a different type of lady. I mean, of course if you see her in the club every weekend, skip that one, but step out side of the box next time. And try not to hold grudges against all of us women, it's so not fair! Plus, it gives chick's like #1 on the response list a reason to call you a jerk!
2006-11-22 17:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, I totally know how you feel... my last relationship has me waiting for at least a year to date men again.
I apologize on behalf of the bitches that trampled on you... that really bites.
It'd be good to wait for a while before you start dating again, to do some self discovery. That's totally what I'm doing, and I'm really liking being single. And if you miss the sex aspect, the friends-with-benefits option is always good if you can handle it. But if you're sensitive or bitter, probably best to stay away from that and invest in some good movies and ...fluid... ;)
But if you're ever in the Seattle area, hit me up!
2006-11-22 17:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Just forget about the girl that did this to you. She obvoiously didn't care for you. But your sensitive which is a good thing in my point of view. I think that you will make it. Jsut do'nt do the whole jelouss thing and use some girl because then you could break their heart just like someone broke yours. Just act like you didn't care and she will realize that it was stupid. Just do'nt go back to her. If you ever need to talk you can talk to me if you want. I've been through things with guys.
2006-11-25 10:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Countless women? Whoa! It sounds like you may be spreading it around too much!
There is a light, you just have to remain hopeful. You have obviously been dating the wrong kind of women. Just remember, you will kiss many frogs before one turns into a princess.
2006-11-22 16:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by tbonz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel your pain. Same has happened to me many a time. The only thing that you should do is move on. find someone that is right for you. Those girls were obviously only looking for one thing, and we both know what that is. Dont get cold and only see girls as somethign to use. If you do, you will be as horrible as those that did the same to you. Good luck with the ladies.
2006-11-25 11:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by mr_fine123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. if you have been used i understand that you wouldnt like girls but sooner or later you will find the right girl and she will love you for who you are... and not use you... keep your head up.. there is a light at the end of the tunnel
2006-11-22 16:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy babe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend. this is the same exact thing for alot of women. exept we're sick of men! but besides this. there is just the bad luck with you that you pick the wrong women. not all of them are like this! SERIOUSLY! there really are people out there who care n are looking fo someone though. dont think of women like that. its pathetic n is just bad it'll get u later. watch. just look in the right places.
2006-11-22 16:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nah dude it's cool take it out on some chicks but leave the nice girls alone. Guys are tougher, we can take getting stepped on a little more than girls can. Pound 'em until you feel better, then go out and find a nice girl and forget about it.
2006-11-22 16:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're dating the wrong kind of girls. I understand how you feel but I don't think anyone should give up on finding the one who's right for you. Good luck.
2006-11-22 16:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋