he tells me he loves me and all but i dont know. he has a few girls that r friends. some of them has been his friend since like the 3rd grade. he is great. i love him but i dont like that he has girls that are friends.i have asked him to stop talking to them he said he will break all friendships 4 me and he has but he know i have friends that are guys but he hasnt said ne thing to me and that makes me feel bad now. he is captain of the football team he has enuff money to support me 4 ever he owns his own house and he is the best thing that has happened to me but idk wat to do cause he is every popular guy
2006-11-22 08:51:11 · 17 answers · asked by *~krazi~* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow 42 years is a long time, maybe you should get married.
2006-11-22 08:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is the first thing that will kill a relationship. Do you think it is fair that you are allowed to have friends that are guys and he can not have friends that are girls? If he loves you as you say he does shouldn't that be enough? Your insecurities are going to drive him away very fast. He is the captain of a football team and owns his own home? How old is this guy? If you are going out with him because he is popular and has money then you need a reality check. My boyfriend has a lot of friends that are female as I have a lot of friends who are male including my ex husband. I don't tell him who he is allowed to talk to and he doesn't tell me who I am allowed to talk to. We have been together for 4 yrs and we have a wonderful relationship. His friends are also my friends and my friends are also his friends. Have you tried being friends with his friends?
As for your question as to whether you should break up with him or not, in your short story I can not find any reason why you would want to break up with him, but I can see many reasons why he would want to break up with you. Insecure, jealous, after his money, wanting to be with the most popular guy. Those are not reasons to love someone. If he loves you for you, and you say you love him, then love him unconditionally. Do not put conditions on your relationship when it comes to having friends. If he were cheating on you then I could see a reason to break up with him but just because they have been friends forever is no reason to break up with the guy.
Talk to him and let him know how you feel about his friends and tell him you want to try to be their friend too.
Good luck, and have a Happy Thanksgiving
2006-11-22 09:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, After going with a guy for two years things should be pretty solid by now - a lot of people get married after dating for just a year... You know time usually tells one way or the other - but with you two things seem a little unsettled. You both have issues that need to be worked on. If both of you truly love each other then this will be a test to see what would each of you do to make this relationship rock solid. What will you give up- what will you tolerate? You need to figure out exactly what you want in a relationship, then find the man who can make that come true for you. I know that if I truly loved my girlfriend I would put her first & give up anything that threatened our love - would he do that for you? would you do that for him?...that is how you will know if you should breakup or not!...I'm wishing you the best...ok?...bye bye
2006-11-22 09:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl but his friends have been around way before you've beena nd you can't get rid of them- it's selfish of you to do that. All you can do is learn to trust your man. Seems like if they are pretty- you may feeel intimidated by their looks and how he's around them or whatever. As long as his friends respect him and you- you shouldget over it but if they flirt with him or what not- tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and no matter how good friends they are- he should get rid of them. Don't screw this up for yourself. Sounds like he's all set if you guys get married. It's hard to find guys like this that are responsible and have their lives all ready to go for marriage or whatever. The only thing that would bother me about my man if i were you would be if i wouldn't get invited to the get togethers' they have. He should take you everywhere he goes. Look at it this way- you're the person he lays with at night & stuff not anyone else so- get over it but- he should also spend more time with you rather than his friends guys or girls period!!!! You need to put your foot down and tell him you feel wieird about this. My BF and i had similar problems before but because his "single" friends (girls) whould rub against him or jumb on him and they all got lost and married.
2016-05-22 18:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer your question with another one. Are you stupid?
He loves you enough to break off friendships for you because you're a selfish idiot and he's got plenty of money to get both of you through life. You claim to love him so why the he** are you thinking about breaking it off? You have NO reason too. Obviously he truly cares about you, why would you want to ruin that?
I know this may have sounded mean, but it's called tough love. Don't think about breaking up with someone you "love" because they're popular.
2006-11-22 08:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, and he loves you (which it seems like he does) then why would you ever want to leave him? Him not talking to his female friends anymore is him trying to prove to you that he really cares about you. And him not saying anything about your guyfriends just means that he's secure with you, that he trusts you and he's not a jealous guy. If you broke up with him after his sacrafice then it would kind of be like a slap in the face to him. I mean, if you're not happy with him by all means, leave, but it seems like you're just scared of having a real, loving, lasting, forever type relationship. 2 years is awhile, enough for you two to really know eachother. You said yourself that he's the best thing that ever happend to you, so why would you want to break it off?
2006-11-22 08:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by peace318sb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby i think the popular and all the attention came with the package. the day u said yes to him i guess u had also said yes to all of his friends activities. the best thing is if he loves u and treat u right. that u should trust him around his friends. u can also get to know some of his friends and hang out together.
2006-11-22 08:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous now you will still be next year. It will cause problems. Deal with the insecurity first. Time and experience helps us feel better about our self. If he has been faithful give him a chance.
2006-11-22 08:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Patty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you afraid of this girls????? friendship is nothing why you dont become friends with his friends, try to learned why he likes to hang out with them I dont think is fair for him to break all his friendships cause you feel unsecure so just be honest and see what is really bother you, does he spend more time with them than with you whats wrong withthe friendship
2006-11-22 09:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK...here is what i think. you may not like this, but you sound jealous. boys can have a girl friend just as much as girls can have a boy friend. i mean i bet that you have guys that are friends and he doesn't care so why should you? if you like him that much then stay with him, but respect your trust in him and respect his friends....but if you get suspicious of him and another girl.....figure ti out right away!
2006-11-22 09:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋