This will be the first time that i ask a girl out and im not really sure what to do.. i'm almost 100 % sure she'll say yes, so i dont have a confidence problem. just not really sure what to say.
2006-11-22 08:37:23 · 13 answers · asked by nycorvette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is a girl you are really interested in your mind might be filled with doubts and insecurities :
What if she says no ?
Am I trying to move too fast ?
Maybe she thought we were just friends and she will be offended if I ask.
All of these fears, although natural and common, are dumb. If you want a date with this girl you have the right to ask her out. Don't allow your life to be ruled by doubt and insecurity.
So what are the best ways to ask a girl out ?
There are several cheesy techniques you can use to lower your chances of rejection (such as making a bet with a girl and the loser has to make them dinner) but these kinds of games are unnecessary. If you are straightforward, and don't beat around the bush about what you want, a girl will respect and admire your confidence.
Optimally, you would ask her in a face-to-face setting. However, if that is not possible, either because the opportunity won't present itself or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone.
Avoid, at all costs, asking through email or any other written medium (Instant Messenger, a note, etc.). Not only do these methods scream "CHICKEN!" they also leave behind a paper trail that may or may not come back to haunt you.
One way to avoid looking like an idiot is to have something in mind to say for these three possible reactions to your question so you won't be caught off guard :
If she says "yes"
Have a plan in mind; know your schedule and have an idea to suggest.
If she says "no"
Don't act shocked or offended. Just be like, "Alright." Then carry on the conversation as if you never asked. Be friendly and polite. Too often guys take a "no" personally and get ticked off. Girls don't admire or respect a negative reaction. The fact that you were able to brush off her rejection so easily may actually raise her interest.
If she says "some other time"
Have a plan B in case she is busy. If she still acts like she has too much to do it's probably because she's not interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Accept it as a rejection and move on.
Of course, you go into it expecting her to say "yes" but it's, as with most things in life, it's important to be prepared for the worst.
Tips on how to ask a girl out
The real key to getting women to say "yes" when you ask for the date IS TO MAKE SURE THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU.
If a woman is attracted to you then why wouldn't she want to go out on a date with you ? It makes sense but most guys don't think of it that way... they miss the point and focus on "how to ask" rather than focusing on raising her attraction.
2006-11-22 08:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Hillary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's ignore all the sexist people out there! It's the twenty-first freaking century. If you like someone, tell them. Girls shouldn't have to ride backseat to guys all of our lives just because it's considered "tradition". Screw that, lol! I have asked out guys before, and usually it goes pretty well. Guys like girls that take charge. If you I like someone then I tell them. I think that's how all girls should think. Yeah it feels good to get asked out, but let's face it, half the population doesn't have the balls for that. Sometimes the girl just has to get the relationship started, then the guy can take over from there.
2016-03-29 05:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first time, it's going to be awkward no matter what you do. Don't practice because it will sound rehersed. If you are sure she is going to say yes, then it doesn't really matter how you ask because she'll be excited either way.
2006-11-22 08:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a real man and ask her face to face. None of this note passing or friend of a friend asking crap. Just start a conversation with her and ask. "I was wondering if you wanted to see a movie this weekend?"
2006-11-22 08:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say: hey what r u doing Friday night? if she says nothing then u say: wanna go 2 a movie??? she says sure!
Wanna have sex so i can see ur things?
u dont have 2 say the last line!
2006-11-22 08:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if shes free for the weekend,
or
If she would like to go have lunch with u,
Its easy jus try it!
Have fun,
and good luck!
2006-11-22 08:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask if she wants to go for a drink, watch a movie, have a meal heck even a coffee, she can only say no and that doesn't hurt you wimp.
2006-11-22 08:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've built up a strong trust and friendship barrier then just ask, you need to make sure she trusts you enough first though
2006-11-22 08:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by tnt_bbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a note.. or send your friends to ask her... face to face might make her uncomfortable so keep it simple. .
Good Luck
From Kimmi And Sara
2006-11-22 08:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit her over the head with something blunt and drag her off..
2006-11-22 08:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋