Iv tried anal sex once befor but it really hurt, my boyfriend wants to try it again. But im scared it will hurt again, do you think i should try it again or tell him no?
2006-11-22 08:35:10 · 57 answers · asked by xxpeachsoftxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you dont want to do it then tell him "NO"...;
2006-11-22 08:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what I missed when I was younger. I remember wanting to try that, but never had the nerve to bring the subject up. If this is something that you know you have tried, and you didn't enjoy, then don't do it; even if he will get all the pleasure in the world for it. Additionally, if you do it once, chances are that he will want the brown eye again.
The decision is up to you, and from the sound of it, since it hurts you and you derive no pleasure from it, the decision has been made.
2006-11-22 08:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done right many women have no problem with it and many like it. But the key there is "done right".
First, lots of lube. Not petroleum jelly, but a good sex lube. Not "Anal-eze" because it numbs it too much and injury could occur.
Second, go slow. Take your time getting there. Have your boyfriend use one finger in there until it is comfortable and then slip in another. Do not try his penis until two fingers are comfortable in there.
Third, he shouldn't thrash away in there like it is your vagina. Slow is the key in anal sex. Fast and hard is for porn movies. Slow and gentle is real life.
If you want to try it again, follow my advice above. Done this way, and if you are relaxed, you'll have no problem doing it and you may even like it.
2006-11-23 15:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anal sex is somewhat an acquired liking, and some women never do like it. the important thing for HIM to remember is to be very gentle and take it very slowly. you on the other hand have to be very relaxed and aroused. try to get him to make you climax vaginally first. this will relax your body more. try using a good lubricant. and as always, if you're not sure both of you are STD free, use a condom.
2006-11-22 08:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Flint 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will hurt at first...but once "it" is in, it's not so bad. you may be a little sore afterwards but it goes away (and the more often you try it gets easier every time)
With that being said, it is not for everyone, if it is something you dson't want to do then just let him know that you are uncomfortable and it hurts...
2006-11-22 08:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by shasta 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You only get what you settle for , a relationship goes through a constant state of negotiation , Therese no harm in saying yes or no ,but it sounds to me like you want to make a stand on this one but are afraid , don't be afraid .
2006-11-22 19:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let him try it, ON SOMEONE ELSE
Nature designed our butts to get rid of waste therefore as I see it it is a one way organ if you get my meaning
Now the other equipment is a different matter and is more suited to two way situations ie babies out and placing your order in the first place.
Like I said at the begining if he wants to try it and you don't, let him try it elsewhere and find yourself a better guy. There's plenty out there.
2006-11-22 09:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, please, please let him try it. Us blokes love it and it will make you so much more sexually atractive to him.( i hope that doesn't sound really sexist)
But you gotta be prepared and be ok with it within yourself.
What you need to do is:
1. get relaxed, have a few glasses of wine or whatever gets you in the mood.
2. Use plenty of lube, you both want to make entry as easy as possible.
3. Tell him to be very gentle and slow so that you can both enjoy it. You should be ok if you trust him.( have a blunt instrument to hand just in case tho)
So, let yourself go and enjoy the experience.
ooh. I got all exited writing that. Tell us how it goes ;-)
2006-11-22 08:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Koontz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him no. But if you want to try again then go slowly. That should be something you both enjoy. If he doesnt listen to you, then tell him to go F U C K himself. Get him another man. You shouldn't be forced to do something you don't want to do. If it persists dump him
2006-11-22 08:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eeeyuuwww that sounds gross and very painful. if you do not like it tell him. and make it clear of your disgust cos that may shame him into never bringing it up again
also i read once that someone had to have a colostomy as a result fo forceful anal sex so tell him that to scare him too
2006-11-22 08:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by DesertRose 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you don't like it say no. or you could if you wanted get some loob tell him to sit down and you take charge. just don't let him do all the trusting. take control girl no matter what the out come
2006-11-22 08:40:22 · answer #11 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋