My Daughter just started school this year and I was wondering is it wrong to decline sleepover requests? I do want my daughter to have and enjoy sleep overs but I think if we wait until they are a little older then 4yr old, they may be better w/ responsability. I have had her cousin sleepin over since she was a baby but she is also my neice so is it different? What do U think? How do U let a child know that U have different rules then their parents and visa versa? How will my daughter act @ other peoples house w/out me there?
2006-11-22 08:31:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It is not that I do not like them, It is that I have a medical condition and can not handle more then one child at a time.
2006-11-22 08:58:43 · update #1
I would never allow a 4 yr old to stay at a stranger's house. There are just too many freaks and weirdoes out there who do all kinds of things with children. A 4 yr old cannot make decisions well to protect themselves if something is going wrong.
While it sounds nice, be a protective mama bear and watch over your little cub. I used to tell people that I'm a very peaceful person unless someone messes with my children. Then, I'm a mama bear and you just messed with my cubs!
Keep her close. She may be disappointed now, but someday she will understand how much you love her.
People accused me of keepng my daughters too close and sheltering them. Well.... they are now young adult women. We have had no smoking, no drinking, no drugs, no premarital sex (older daughter was a virgin on her wedding night). Seems to me that I did a pretty good job.
As they got older I talked to them a lot about life. They learned what to say to boys, to have self-respect, and to take care of themselves.
So to the nay-sayers who think we should let our kids run the streets nowadays..... I point to the kids who've died in the streets, been molested, abused, etc. None of that happened to my kids, so they should just back up off of it.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-22 08:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I go through this question at least once a month from my 5th grader. I don't think kids get a enough rest as it is. Educational expectations are already high enough in our area and I can't risk that my child will go to bed at 10- wake up at 6 and not get enough breakfast. Come on, now. Isn't it more comfortable being in your own bed and getting a good breakfast and going to school fresh? Last year my daughter had/has a friend that needed to sleep over because her mother has a high power career that takes her out of town often. I agreed to keep her for 2 nights. Although lights were out at 8:45, they could not control the giggles throughout the night and woke up at 5am and made pop tarts and barely made it to school on time. It was a horror. My daughter came home from school cranky, tired, bags under eyes and sluggish. I explained to the mom I couldn't do it anymore. It just isn't a good idea. My oldest was only in 4th grade last year, but still. This year it was a solid rule. That mom had to make arraignments with the grandmother because it effects the kids too much.
2016-05-22 18:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 7, and she too started being invited to sleepovers at the age of 4. These were birthdays parties. I let my daughter go to the birthday parties, and stay up until the other girls were getting ready for bed. Even at 7, she has only had one sleepover at another girl's house. Some parents are more relaxed than others, but I tend to be more strict. I don't find anything wrong with being stricter; you just don't know anymore...the world is getting crazier and crazier by the minute! :)
2006-11-22 13:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by *me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally. When children are that age I don't think a sleepover is the best idea. There are so many things that could happen, and she may not even have the most basic problem solving skills. My advice is wait till she is older and can handle being away from home better.
2006-11-22 08:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You daughter is four? Well, when I was four I was very sheltered, and wasn't anywhere ('cept school) without my parents. Do you spoil her? Since I wasn't spoiled, I behaved very well at school, but I didn't go to sleepovers because my friends were sheltered too. You should talk to the parents of who you may be coordinating this sleepover with, see what they think.
2006-11-22 08:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from experience ... my daughter is very well behaved when im not around and so are most peoples children.. i dont know why but they actually listen better go figure... as for sleep overs at 4 i would say its a bit to young and i would explain it to her.. so i think your right rules are rules and cousins are different .
2006-11-22 08:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by maureen a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest meeting the parents of the other kids first. Also, tell your child to call if she needs to, untill she can can comfortable with the concept of a sleepover.
2006-11-22 09:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Justin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four is too young for sleepovers - and of course it is different with family members. I wouldn't be letting her go over to someone's house at this age, nor for them to come to hers. Usually, girls want to do this around seven or eight, when you know the families and they know you.
2006-11-22 10:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Why do you not like them? Talk to her about your reasoning. How your daughter will react to anyones house you will only know. I would start it by letting her sleep at her grandparents house and test that.
2006-11-22 08:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋