I had a summer romance in July. He is 2 years younger than me. He emailed me everyday, told me that he liked me alot. He was going to stop cussing for me, because he knew that I didn't like that. I kinda liked him. He is an awesome guy. I emailed him about a week ago, he wants me to call him. I feel that I made a stupid choice. How do I know that I like him? I feel the only reason I like him is because he likes me. What should I do?
2006-11-22 08:29:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that I am just doing this for the wrong reasons! I feel like I will hurt him in the end.
2006-11-22 08:33:17 · update #1
He lives about two hours away from me!
2006-11-22 08:34:03 · update #2
I don't think you are dumb -- the fact that you are questioning this situation shows thought and some depth. You sound like a younger gal (under 25?) so just like every other woman at that age you tend to get swept away with the emotion of things and it's hard to step back and look at situations with some detached perspective and more grounded purpose.
So think about what the purpose is of getting to know ANY guy at your age -- it should be to enjoy their company, learn something from them, know that you are valued and that you can hold your moral ground with them and then over much time (years and years) perhaps have the relationship grow to more serious ground -- for a time when you are more mature, secure in yourself as a woman (late 20s early 30s) and can then think about a very serious / permanent relationship).
So don't be scared, freaked out, weirded out, insecure / feeling dumb about this -- just be strong in yourself and your goals and know that you are not going to be a match with ALMOST ALL of the guys you will meet. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with these guys or with you.
It just means that a woman that truly values herself and is willing to wait for the right man will understand that the type of man that desrves her will be hard to find, and she will have a lot of work to do / maturing to do before she can be the right woman for that one guy.
So just take it one step at a time, get to know this guy, make sure that any changes in his life are made for him (not for you -- that's a pretty weak stance for a man) and then just have fun, set and hold your boundaries -- do not do things that will risk you getting a VD, pregnant, losing respect in yourself, getting a bad reputation, etc -- and stay focused on your future and the growth you need to continue going through as inevitably different people will come into and out of your life.
Good luck :)
2006-11-22 08:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Finnale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know him u will prob start to like him n if he is willin to change is ways 4 u he must think ur pretty special cuz most guys would not do that. but if u guys talk n go places n u still dont like him after a month or 2 then dont lead him on n dont tell him u like him enless u r 4 sure that u like im n age does not matter just as long as he is good to u
2006-11-22 16:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to write down on a piece of paper all of the things you like about him and all the things he has done for you! Then really let that soak in then you wil know wether or not you like him if not then just let him know that you would like for you and him just to be friends right now and maybe if you guys feel strongly about each other later then you and him can persue your relationship!
2006-11-22 16:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him u dont like him anymore-u cant be more plain and simpler than by doing that-and if he gets angry...he probably wasn't the best choice to begin with...i mean u can expect him to be a little upset or hurt...but if he just goes into an outrage...he wasn't the rite person in the 1rst place
hoped this helped
lindy!
2006-11-22 16:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by lindseyy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your worried about the decline from e mails to phone calls., don't
phone calls are a form of communication, like e-mail.
E mail is a much more personal thing.
Follow your heart.
2006-11-22 16:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jus tell him how u feel,If he really cares about u the he'll understand ur feelings and he may be hurt for a while but u will know that u r not nagging him on ur whole life,and then ya'll can jus move on.
If you don't tell him now it will jus be harder later.
2006-11-22 16:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he lives near you, give him a second chance and go out on a date with him. see if you still see what you saw in him before. you might really like this guy, but remember; you can't expect people to change just for you. change must come from within
2006-11-22 16:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by Flint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's time for some soul searching. no one can stop any thing for any one but them selves. If you only like him because he likes you it will fail. Then you will be a heart breaker. better to cut him loose now rather than later and cause him pain
2006-11-22 16:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on a date with him, tell him you want to take things slowly as friends to see where it leads. What do you have to loose, and besides something wonderful might happen.
2006-11-22 16:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts.. don't do it! By preventing mistakes.. we go with what our insides are telling us. If you feel that it won't work.. don't do it. If you don't have real feelings for someone.. you should just remain friends.. or less! Only go out with the guy if you like him!
2006-11-22 16:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋