When I first had my daughter I did begin to see my parents in a new light and to appreciate them more. In many ways though I was still their child even though I had one of my own.. (although that sounds daft I hope it will become clearer!)
This last week or so I have been really a mixture of down/preoccupied with what my own folks did for me and have been remembering in great detail all the times we had when they were my age..
Anyways - it was like an awakening and now see my parents with completely new eyes and now want to look after them the way they cared for and spoiled my Granny when she was their age.. so now I no longer feel like just their child but I also feel so so motivated to do all I can for them while they are still here.. (another symptom of this whatever you call it is that I have also been really distraught at the thought of losing them both..neither is in good health..)
Anyone been there too?
2006-11-22 08:22:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It just does not seem that long ago that the roles were all reversed with me being the kid, folks the parents and my Granny older..cannot believe where the time went and also so sad that both my folks did not have an easier life and also guilty for the times post having my daughter and when I was younger that I was crabbit or caused them grief.
2006-11-22 08:24:46 · update #1
Yes, but if you have parents like mine they will think you are trying to take their independence away and resist all offers of help.
The only way it has worked is that I have had to move away due to problems with my ex and now my mum realises what I was trying to do and misses me.
2006-11-26 07:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel and what you mean. It doesn`t seem 5 minutes since I was waiting with intrepidation to see what Santa was bringing me for Christmas, cycling to school, giggling about "periods" and st`s and stepping out in my flares and platforms. Now it`s the menopause and arthritis. Mum was mum and I couldn`t imagine her being anything different. At 77 she`s a great grandmother now and I`m a nan. I lost my dad in 1988. I never envisaged myself being a mother never mind a nan. Having the kids makes you see things in a different light, and being a nan makes you evaluate again. I look at my granddaughter and think where did she REALLY come from? It seems unbelievable. It`s called The Circle Of Life, and the only control you have over it is to come to terms with it and enjoy it`cos the time goes by so quickly,especially after you hit 50.
2006-11-22 09:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband especially feels this way- always thinking about "the good old days". After having kids, I realized how much my parents loved me growing up, that they would always love me, and how much I would always love them. I was actually a little embarassed one night hugging my mom good-bye after a visit and having all those feelings rushing over me. I was tearing up. I tried to downplay it by saying something like, "I love you, that's all"- as if there were anything else more important in all the world. <3
2006-11-22 08:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by AMEWzing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am ..... Though more thinking about my great grandparents because I grew up with them .........
2006-11-22 08:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋