another Puppy?

Question

My Fiance wants to buy another puppy?

How do I explain to my Fiancée that it is best to wait in getting another puppy after we are married?

Currently, we owned one little weenie dog and I adore her with all my heart. But having two weenie dogs is going to be more responsibility. Especially we both work full time and we live in apartment. Also, I have wedding expenses in putting away for honeymoon and her wedding ring. We just can't afford another puppy right now and I prefer to wait after we are married. My fiancée desire for another puppy, but I really feel it's best to settle down in our lives before adding another addition to our family.

How should I explain or what should I say to her?

Also, just for the note.... Our relationship with my fiancee and my dog is in great health. I don't think we need counseling or any other training for my dog. Thank You!

Answer 1

Tell her exactly what you said in your question, you explained it perfectly. Tell her it isn't fair to the puppy when you guys work all the time and have an apartment. Tell her that you promise after the wedding and things settle down that you will get her another puppy. Most people don't look at the whole pic before purchasing an animal, its admirable of you to do so. Take Care.

Answer 2

Sounds like you already know how to answer her. While having two dogs isn't much more work than having one. Having a PUPPY is ten times the work of having an adult dog. And regardless of the age, adding a second dog IS expensive! I think if you ask her to wait and explain to her as you did in your question, she should understand.

Then again, I'm the fiance and we now have two dogs lol! but we didn't get a puppy etiher! good luck!

Answer 3

One thing you definitely do not want to do is to make the situation worse by trying to console your pup as you would a human that is acting fearful. Touching, petting, sweet talking, etc to a dog/puppy that is acting fearful will actually make the behavior continue as they look at the affection as praise and reward for whatever behavior they are doing, in this case, it is unwanted behavior. So, you actually want to take the opposite approach and correct the behavior with a stern and calm control word like no, stop, etc. Whatever word you like to use to stop unwanted behavior. Do not use the dogs name, only the control word, everytime they whine and try to run away. Also, do not physically try to make them come back, they must do that on their own for it to work and be meaningful. You can also try to do this while the dog is leashed. You must continue to be calm and "unfearful" yourself because the dog will sense any apprehension/fear that you have and remain fearful and unsure also. When on the leash, and a new dog is coming toward, walk as you normally would like everything. Even if you are in a house, practice this by just walking by the other dog, moving slowly forward all the while then make a turn and come back. Perform this a few times, using the correction word if the dog tries to pull away or cries, but continue moving forward. After a few tries or as many as it takes for the dog to get used to being around the new dog, then stop walking, let the dog settle down, then remove the leash. Of course, the walking only works if done correctly, with you, the leader in front and the dog next to or slightly behind you. If you have never seen this done correctly, watch the Dog Whisperer on National Geographic Channel. On every episode, he shows dog owners how to walk their dog correctly so that the dog views you as the leader and dog as follower. You assuming the leader position and acting calmly and assertively will help your dog to be better physically and mentally.

Answer 4

It would help you to communicate, if you understood her frame of mind/body right now.
As she is preparing for marriage, and raising a family, she is in a nesting, brooding, mothering, nurturing mode right now.. This happens when people live together before being married..as the hormonal changes are taking place, without the commitment and emotional outlet of beginning to raise a family..

She will want another dog, to have someone to mother, who is devoted to her..Your current dog is likely devoted to you..or she feels it is not her own..
One solution, would to be getting involved in activities together with your dog..Join a class for Canine Good Citizenship, as a challenge to her nurturing and teaching skills.. You can move on from there to agility classes and competition..Also, long walks together with the current dog will give her a feeling of more involvement and romantic experience connected to the current dog..
Wanting a second (or third and fourth) dog is often a needing of more devoted love...no love seems as devoted as the love you get from your pet companion..So, more display of supportive love on your part may also help meet the need..Men tend to feel that they show enough love by just acting committed and that their lady should KNOW that they are loved..but a woman has very different needs, of just plain old fashioned romantic , demonstrative, and outspoken love..

If you email me your state/county, I will get you contact information for your local kennel clubs that sponsor those classes and events..

Answer 5

Tell her what you just said in your question.
If she doesn' t understand then let her get another puppy on the condition that you get married in a court by a judge and no honeymoon and all she gets for a ring is a gold band. She'll chose not to get the puppy.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Tell her exactly what you just told us. It makes perfect sense and I can agree with you completely, and I'm sure she will be able to as well. Giving in and getting another puppy now may stop her asking, but it might not be the best thing for the puppy. Good luck!

Answer 7

I agree with you. I'd say explain to her that it is too expensive and give her a certain range of time to wait before you two can start looking for another dog. In the mean time, I'd start prepping your current dog for her permanent house guest.

Answer 8

Well tell her what you just said in your question. You two are going to be married. You need to communicate without being frightened. Just tell her your feelings and issues on another puppy. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Two dogs aren't really any harder to take care of than 1 esp. the small ones. I know I have 4 big ones. Now if you really don't have the money than that is any issue. But most dogs are happier when there are other dogs around.

Answer 10

tell her that one puppy is enough for right now. i suggest you tell her all of the reasons that you just put down. if she loves you she will focus on you more that the puppy