i've finally come around. i don't think i'm meant to be happy in love (just my fate) & will most likely remain single. so what I do is, I engage in whatever gives me that romantic allure; going for a walk, reading a love novel, seeing a movie, learning a new language, attempting to paint/draw/write...I do miss passion but I try to help myself in any way I can, :)
how do you find this...I believe in destiny & there is only so much you can do...
thanx...
2006-11-22 08:10:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I envy you so much. You are doing all the things you should be doing to enjoy being alone. I think it is absolutely fantastic that you walk, read, go to movies, learn, paint, draw and write. But I sense you're in pain a little and you definitely sound lonely. So try not to dwell on "remaining single". Think of it as a time that you can completely dedicate yourself to getting to know you. Now run with your passions and your strengths and channel them into something productive...something that you can influence others with. Maybe you're a great listener. Maybe you're a fabulous teacher. Use your strengths to help others and it'll fuel your passions. And in the meantime, you'll probably run into someone who shares your interests too. I firmly believe YOU create your fate.
2006-11-22 16:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Emmamart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I admire the fact that you are doing the one Important thing one can do with themselves while being single, And that is STAYING BUSY, I want you to focus on things that make you feel good, I have found that when you give of yourself,by HELPING Other people out the less fortune or just listening to problems/concerns of others this tends to take your mind off of your issues/problems. TRY THIS, You see when we hear of problems concerning others We tend to stop and think "WOW And I thought I had it bad" Remember there is always someone with or in a worst situation than self. But right now just know that If LOVE is WHAT YOU WISH/WANT for then Think It, Speak It Beleive It and this will happened for you one day. And it will come when you Lease Expected, meaning when you are not caring about it. I KNOW BEEN THERE. There is nothing wrong w/being single, because just know there are some of us that have someone in our lives BUT are not happy with that person. You have your freedom to go and come ect.... To look and choose who you would like to be with rather it be dating,fellowshipping ect... Try putting down the romance novels that will only make you depressed in some ways, And just take time to focus on you. When You can Look in the Mirror and see yourself and LOVE what you see and you love you then that is all that matters. And one point in my life I'd thought I never find Mr. Right and at times I would make bad decisions think not so good thoughts, Then I woke up one day and said to self, If it is ment for me to have someone, Then this will take place one day.I started not to care anymore and I began living life for me. And then out of know where There he was. God wants you to be Patient and exploy other things right now, Like finding yourself. Then he will send what you need to complete any empty feeling you may have. Please take care
2006-11-22 08:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should change your perspective. Instead of "dealing" you could EMBRACE being single, work on things that make you happy (such as your list) and the next thing you know, the right person will show up for you! Don't think about it everyday, though, because then you'll appear desperate, and the opposite sex can "sense" this with your pheremones, if not your actions!
Good luck!
2006-11-22 08:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by purplepartygirrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you like to do. someone with similar interests will come along when the time is right. and i hear you know ity when it happens.
being single is way better than being with someone who isn't good for you. and don't just date to have someone in your life, that's not good either. the ups and downs of meeting someone and thinking they are nice then finding out they are a jerk is worse than being single.
so have fun, make friends, and the right one will come along. i believe they will be a friend and care about you and things will be easy when it is right.
2006-11-22 10:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mango 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally id say block it out. Engage in activity's that take your mind of the topic completely. My self i find computer games and movies to be good for that. :)
2006-11-22 09:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Wonx2150 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay focused on anything else but love, because it will come around. unless you are not patient (spelling) then you will just find yourself being lonely most of the time. going to school, working, running, movies, anything to keep your mind busy and stay interactive with people will help you out greatly...hope that helps
2006-11-22 08:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been single for my whole life and it doesn't bother me like it used to...I decided that until I know how to change my expectations I can never be happy and I haven't changed them yet or the right man hasn't...
2006-11-22 16:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by rynay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe destiny. I just keep my mind on education.
2006-11-22 08:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋