Should I just wait and see how things go, try and make 'amends', or just leave well alone? Me and the ex are about as close as brothers, but I feel like he's holding back. Help!
2006-11-22 08:10:03 · 10 answers · asked by mikethebadger1701 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Steve G and the last person to answer before me. I have been in a similar situation, in fact I was the one who no longer had feelings and my ex wouldn't let me go. You see, I may have been prepared to be friends with him but the way he kept clinging onto me made me scared and I ran away, never speaking to him again. He sounds like a great friend to you so maybe take some time apart so you can get over your feelings for him and then pick things up as good friends. I know that time will heal your wounds. Best of luck.
2006-11-23 02:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. I have a few thoughts for you to consider, but I'm at a loss as to where you're coming from.
You're still in love.
He says he's not anymore
You're still tight with your ex....
You think he's holding back....
I'm guessing that you're still in love with your ex. You've already called the relationship over or expired, but you still have feelings and he says he doesn't.
I'm sorry man, but I'm afraid you're done there. Whether there's someone else in his life or not, if he wanted you there, he'd probably tell you. Often (though not always) it takes more fortitude to tell a partner you're not in love with them, than it does to admit you are.
If he's holding something back from you, there's a reason. It might actually have nothing to do with you or the relationship you once had, or might have again. Regardless, let him be and find something or someone to occupy your time. If you're dead set on hanging around to see if the outcome will turn out to be in your favor, you'll avoid future pain if you can be honest about it with anyone you may get involved with in the mean time. Better to be up front than in pain.
2006-11-22 08:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate the way you are feeling is ****!
I remember and so does everyone else who has been in your shoes but buddy please just walk!
when it comes to the heart I personally belive especially for the heart you can not be messed around (you can be a little bit in life but not much) but when it comes to your heart, love and all the emotions and feelings that interlink with that then you have to be selfish and benefit yourself
if she is being cold and the opposite as to how she normally is then walk away cut your ties totally its the only way you will get over her and if she is saying she has no feelings left then dont hang around mate if she has done certain things that with a bit of reflection you think "yeah thats a sign she wants this to end" when you analyse it to how she was when you two were really good then you will realise mate you must walk away!
but good luck buddy with whatever happens :)
2006-11-22 08:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When an ex says that,personally,I'd look to move on. They may just need some space but could just as easily change their minds again as I have had to deal with on too many occassions. People changing their mind,coming back,changing mind leaving etc not fun. Do whats best for you but honestly I'd see it with at least half a mind on moving on
2006-11-22 08:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Stu L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's dead, lay down babes. I just answered a similar question and I knew I felt nothing for my girlfriend. She had done nothing wrong but I just felt nothing anymore. She begged and pleaded and it only made me start resenting her for not letting me go! It's been 6 months and I still don't feel any different for her but it's taken this long for her to finally move on and leave me alone. I know she a beautiful person but she wasn't for me and her hanging on made me angrier and angrier!
I know it hurts babe but move on. Good luck and I know you will find someone who deserves you x
2006-11-22 08:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they say they have no more feelings left it means they're tired of the way things have been and want to move on to someone else.
Just walk away.
2006-11-22 08:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i really think you should just wait and see how things go and when the time is right then you can love her and she can love you
2006-11-22 08:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Triston R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its awful when you still have feeling for someone but they don't feel the same, you have to concentrate on yourself. get out more meet new people. don't waste time waiting, time is precious.
2006-11-22 08:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by dipz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't lie about things like that. Move on.
2006-11-22 08:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to accept it's over babe and move on.
it would be great if you can stay mates though wouldn't it?
i hope you both work something out.
xx
2006-11-22 08:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋