Is it natural for men to love their wives more now that they are married than when they were dating. Especially, if he didn't treat her like a wife when they were engaged and living together?
2006-11-22 07:53:44 · 22 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's why I'm never getting married.
2006-11-22 07:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Stella!
From some experience, I have seen that men (and women) are often less inhibited once the marriage is final, giving them more emotional energy to dedicate to their wives. Even if they have been living together, the security of marriage can be very liberating. Whether he loves her more is up to them to decide, but it may very well seem that way. This also does not guarantee that this liberation of emotions will last - their is a honeymoon period for that as well, in my opinion. This "relaxation" of amore does not mean that he loves her less! Part of what we want from a spouse is someone we feel comfortable with - but so many couples feel left out when this comfort level starts. He loves her the same, he is just settling in to his security with her.
In my humble opinion...
2006-11-22 16:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by jeward1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems kinda strange though, usually it is the other way around, love when dating and engaged and not really hate, but semi love after marriage, but not uncommon
he probably suddenly found a reason to love you more, besides, it is a good thing, you will be the envy of most married women. it is also probably your husband loves the fact that you are his spouse for some reason
2006-11-22 21:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by some guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a sign of wholeness. Because when you were dating it was like you all could break up any time. And now you know that your love was true so I think it is not unusual unless you look at it that way. But stay happy. And personally I would be glad if my husband loved me more now than when we were dating because you showed your love when you proposed to her.
2006-11-22 16:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by jigglet92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is natural. In a healthy, mature relationship, Love is something that you work on, nuture and grow daily. SO, the longer you are married, the deeper and more profound that love should become.
I have been married 8 years. I love my husband more now then I ever imagined I would love him - even on our wedding day!
2006-11-22 20:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is but it's kinda a different more complete love. There's a bond that only comes with marriage that seems to really make two people one.
2006-11-22 16:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no usually the other way round, once you get married the love and life force is sucked out of you leaving only a hollow shell of what used to be and you wait hopeful that death will find you soon. So I would say your either lucky or he has a mistress and guilt is what motivates him.
2006-11-22 15:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the marriage is good the longer they are together the more they love each other.
Sometimes you think there should be a bigger word than love to describe how you feel.
2006-11-22 15:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it is natural why not ? my husband says he loves me more now that he is getting to know me better with each and every day that we are spending together as man and wife . he sees everything now and I too with him .
2006-11-22 15:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I think it's ok. Love grows with time.
But watch out if he suddently becomes very nice, it is possible that he has another woman.
2006-11-22 16:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by popcorn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋