Move on or keep trying?

Question

Ive been dating someone on and off for over a year. Ive loved him from the start but never told him. About 4months ago I finally told him how I felt. We were still kind of together but it wast "serious" in his eyes. I love him with all of my heart, and I want to be with him. But he says he doesnt know that he is ready for a relationship. So I decided to move on and explore my options. Because of this, he claims I dont ACTUALLY love him. But I dont think I should wait around for him. Its not fair. He only seems to care when Im about to leave him for someone else.

Should I stick around or leave. No one Ive dated since him comes close to making me feel as happy as he does.

Answer 1

u said it urself. he only seems to care when ure about to leave for someone else, hes taking u for granted, he doesnt think ure worthy enough for him, he wants a challenge or someone he cant have.

if u really want him, start playing hard to get. Make him jealous by flirting with other guys, do exactly wat he is doing to you. im not kidding this will work.

After a while of doing this he will come round, and even then - still dont tell him how u feel, keep playing hard to get and making him jealous, then finally maybe accept him and go out with him...

try this out, u got nothing to lose.

Answer 2

I totally understand where you are coming from on this one. I think you are right when you say it's not fair to you to wait around for him to figure it out. Its been on and off for a year now. You've told him how you felt, and if he doesn't feel the same UNLESS you are with someone else, then he has doubt. You're better off not waiting. Otherwise, I think he will continue to keep you waiting for a really long time. Set a date in your mind, keep letting him know how you feel, and if and when said date comes up, and he still hasn't figured it out for himself, then by all means move on for your own sanity.

Wishing you all the best with this!

Answer 3

wait 4 him but not for long time maybe he will change if u see after a while he still not want a relationship then move on because u can't find the one u love or feel different like u said every day

Answer 4

If its the classic 'i don't want you but, i don't want anyone else to have you either' scenario, i would personally move on, although it may be hard. If you truely believe that something could become of this, be persistant and be with the one you love. All you can do is try and at the end of the day, if its supposed to happen, i'm sure it will =]

Answer 5

i think of u ought to flow on im particular he cares its organic. yet u prefer a dating and love him and if u prefer that and u do no longer think of hes waiting than he probably isn't waiting. if he would not ever initiate up the text textile id supply up texting him and of direction hell probably ask y did u supply up and whats incorrect nicely ur human and hes no longer cripple he can %. up his telephone besides. if he needs u hed positioned himself available no longer via shy and not attempt to text textile u or talk with u first.

Answer 6

if you truly loved him you wouldnt even be asking this question
loving someone means you would wait forever for them

Answer 7

hmm tough one. let him know how you feel. i can agree with both of you but i think if he doesnt know how he feels you definitely shouldnt wait around for him to have his cake and "not"eat it too

Answer 8

You should be with him another month but if he's not fair you should leave him.

Answer 9

Move on, you labeled him right.