So I'm in my late 20's and everyone is always asking me why I don't have a boyfriend. I admit, I like being alone most of the time and if I guy doesn't meet my standards I would rather be single.
However, maybe I'm just saying that because I'm not getting any action. I'm not sure!
I've always had lovers, but never really a boyfriend. What should I do to make myself appear more like "girlfriend" material?
2006-11-22 07:28:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My standards aren't really that high...I'm basically just a goofball looking for an attractive counterpart that I can play yet also be serious with. I hope that makes sense. Naturally, they have to have a goal in life and capable of taking care of themselves. Other than that, I'm pretty easygoing.
2006-11-22 07:33:04 · update #1
I'm in my early twenties and I understand the feeling. Sometimes it's the people around us who draw our attention towards our life 'sans' a partner...
A good way is to:
1. Try to get yourself out there
2. Try new things/activites
3. Improve your self-image and self-worth
4. Meet different people and get to know their circles of friends/colleagues. (Extend your social circle)
5. And most important of all try to be positive in life and keep a smile on your face...
All these things make you appear more approachable and attractive to the opposite sex.
2006-11-22 07:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Charlene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, "do you want a boyfriend?" Don't be pressured into having one just because your friends or relatives think you should have one. If you do want to be in a relationship, first think about what characteristics such a person should have. Then ask yourself, "where would this person work, hang out, or otherwise be located?" Then decide if you can make a connection by being at the same place at the same time. If your friends are completely trustworthy, you might let them know you are ready to get into the dating scene and they might be able to hook you up with a friend. Good luck.
2006-11-22 07:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by larry r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change i am sure that you are a very beautiful person. You just need to get yourself out there. You said that you like to stay alone but being alone wont get you a date or boyfriend. Don't change just go out more and kind meet people and if you don't get a guy with the standards that you want, you might find a good friend.
2006-11-22 07:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by lolly679 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to be just like you when I grow up. LOL Seriously, I wouldn't change a thing--you seemed to have it figured out already. Solitude is a great thing, isn't it? I feel the same way you do--I'd rather be on my own than to compromise. Being considered 'girlfriend material' may require developing co-dependency issues--which you definitely don't seem to have. Now you're 'footloose and fancy free' as the expression goes--why change that at this point? You'll recognize a soul mate if he crosses your path--otherwise you'll be fine on your own. good luck
2006-11-22 07:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and good things come to those who wait! There's nothing wrong with having high expectations when you're dating someone and you refuse to settle for anything less! Besides, you shouldn't care about what other people think-so what if you're still single! The right man will come along!
2006-11-22 07:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, most guys aren't worth having and you are right to weed out the ones who don't meet your standards. Keep looking and look in different places. Be open minded and don't limit yourself to a "type".
2006-11-22 07:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by MT Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you're saying is...you'll screw someone but not keep them around and get to know them?? Since he's not "Mr. Right, I'll make him Mr. Right Now?" Sounds a little dangerous, and maybe a little shallow. Perhaps you're afraid of what others will think of you??
I don't know...good luck though. You're probably a wonderful person...I apologize if I offended you.
2006-11-22 07:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how high are your standards?
Good men are hard to find. I would join some social clubs with activities you enjoy and try to find someone that you have something in common with.
2006-11-22 07:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of message do you send when you meet men? Where are you meeting them and how are you dressed? What is your behavior like?
You might want to try to hang out at different locations and change the type of men you meet.
2006-11-22 07:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Princesa Morenita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet you come with a lot of baggage. It sounds like you want the world but are not willing to work too hard yourself.
2006-11-22 07:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by draftboyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋