I am having Thanksgiving this year at my house and making it a potluck. My mom has been difficult, she didn't like the time I made it, and doesn't like the type of turkey I am making. All she has to bring is the mashed potatoes and 2 pies. She made a comment "I am not going to do this again next year, it is such a bother" so I told her "Why wait till next year, if you are bothered, then don't do it this year". So she is mad at me, my dad said I was rude, and he said I should have sugarcoated it. She is critasizing my Thanksgiving. So, my parents aren't coming. Was I rude, and how could I have handled it better?
2006-11-22 07:26:39 · 8 answers · asked by Veronica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think it was rude, if it was she was rude to you first, even being your parents you are an adult and should be treated with respect as well.
2006-11-22 07:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ray D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were rude, but your mother was to. She was showing no respect for your choice of doing things. Your father is just standing up for his wife that he loves and has to spend the rest of his life with. You probably should have sugar coated it, considering usually in our parents eyes we will never grow up and never do it right. The best thing to do is try to make amens buy telling your mother you are sorry for snapping at her but you are trying to do this holiday your way. that you love her and would she please still come. It is hard to turn the other cheek when people are rude, but this is your mother and they make mistakes too. Even though she really started it show your love and finish it. Lots of luck and happy thanksgiving!!
2006-11-22 15:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE was rude saying what she said. Surely she wasn't thinking when she said that because if she had been thinking she would not have wanted to hurt your feelings? My mom usually speaks before she thinks and thats why I havent seen her or my Dad in 2 months myself and I'm 52. Their 80 and 73. Never too old to learn how to say " I'm sorry". I'm still waiting for an apoligy.
2006-11-22 15:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother seems controlling. Don't worry about it and enjoy your Thanksgiving without her. Be Thankful that she won't be there to criticize you.
2006-11-24 18:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No .My mom is the same way .She prefers to go to the local HEB thanksgiving dinner .Don't worry and enjoy your dinner
2006-11-22 15:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by VIANNEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make peace. You only have one family. Make the potatoes and pies yourself.
2006-11-22 15:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spoke the truth and wasn't rude about it, you said what needed to be said.
2006-11-22 15:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would of said the same thing, but then again my mother would of never spoke to me that way...
2006-11-22 15:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋