What do you do when your girlfriend accuses you of cheating but you haven't committed any crime?

Question

My girlfriend is super insecure and accusses me of cheating on her with every girl that I've ever had contact with. Is she the one cheating and just projectiong her imperfections and guilt onto me or what?

Answer 1

Two options...

#1 - Tell her to hit the bricks.

#2 - Suck up to her for the rest of your life and continue to apoligize for things you haven't done.

It's really your choice...

Figure with #1, if she really believed it and had respect for herself you'd have already gone - So, you'd be sending her the way she should be going to be emotionally healthy... If she's staying because she doesn't believe it, but is just trying to manipulate you into not talking to anyone but her and making her the center of your life, then it's the healthy thing for you to do.

Figure with #2, things can't get any worse than the begging a scraping you're doing already, so go ahead and cheat on her, and steal money from her too for good measure. Might as well be guilty of what she's accusing you of, and it's not like she can make a more severe accusation since you're already considered to be a cheater and she's staying, then she'll be inclined to stay when you really are one with the same token "I'm sorry" and "You know I love you baby.".. Hell you might even get a trip to Chicago to meet Oprah!

Answer 2

You sound like a smart cookie. You are probably absolutely correct. I've been in the same predicament b4 with an ex-boyfriend, and he was the same as your girl. He was the one cheating and thats why he was really insecure.
Now on the other hand there might be a slight chance that she just is a controlling person and someone probably cheated on her so she's scard for life. Find out about her past relationships, find out how they affected her.
But it the worse feeling to have to be with someone so insecure and controlling, it actually start eating away at you b/c you get so annoyed to the point of being fed up. let her know that her insecurities are turning you off and pushing you away. And If your hearts not into it, then let go.

Answer 3

1) I have heard that the one doing the accusing is the one that is guilty.. not sure I buy into this.
- I would assume she feels this way due to some action(s) on your part... Ask her why she feels this way and resolve the issue.. Don't waste any time stressing over it..
2) My response to this is simply to state that I'm not and you do whatever you need to do the feel secure about it.. If you need to follow me or check-up on me then do it.. I have nothing to hide...
- I have been there myself and today, If it feels like this or that, then I conclude (right or wrong) that that's exactly what it is.. I don't talk much about it anymore. I do observe everything and just because I don't say anything doesn't mean I didn't see it.
3) On the other hand, if she's just a "cling-on", well, I've been pretty good at weeding them out before I get involved.
- good luck

Answer 4

I too have been guilty in the past of accusing my boyfriend of cheating. This kind of behavior usually stems from extreme insecurities rather than actual guilt. I have realized that I have a good guy and need to be confident in my relationship and strongly believe that if your gf learns to do the same you guys will be just fine. Try spending more time with her to assure her that your intentions are honorable and she should have no problem trusting you.

Answer 5

I think that you both need to sit down and talk about it rather than blaming each other. I think that telling her that she is pretty complementing her really helps boost her confidence, however, confidence should come from within the person- you cannot instill it in her, she has to realize it herself. Get down to the bottom of things- ask her why she's jealous, and there is your answer, even if she doesn't clearly state it, you'll know why. All you have to do is listen. I do believe that things get worse when you start accusing each other instead of communicate. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I think she has some serious self-esteem issues that I am not sure you can fix by telling her that you aren't. But you also need to make sure that you aren't doing things just to see her response to make her jealous to give you a self-esteem boost either. I always say those that keep accusing others without reason, are usually expecting others to do what they are doing.. Get into a more mature relationship, you will be thankful you did.

Answer 7

Do you think that you may be feeding her insecurities by coming into contact with every girl?? Meaning - that what are you doing?? are you a big flirt w/girls?? are you saying things to her that would make her think that?? If you want the relationship, you need to talk to her about it. But you also need to draw the line w/every girl that you come into contact with.

Answer 8

It could be any number of things that is causing her to do this. She could be cheating on you and trying to remove suspicion from herself. She could have some serious trust issues, or she could be listening to rumors. I would focus on her and pay more attention to her actions she is probably hiding something from you. As for how to confront her, tell her that if she truly does trust you then she would not accuse you of cheating on her. If she doesnt trust you then leave.

Answer 9

Are you a big flirt? If your flirtatious and make her feel like it's more than it is that's why she is insecure. If on the other hand your not and she just gets mad you might want to talk to her and see why she thinks your cheating and try to convince her your not.

Answer 10

Do you want to continue in a relationship where there is no trust? She sounds like she has low self esteem.. As her to get help before you go any further into this relationship. If she refuses to get help then move on. Ask your self if this is how you want to live for the rest of your life?