this is actually a really weird situation. Like a week before my mom moved to Kentucky she met this guy named Roger. He was a really cool guy and all. They talked a few times. Well the day she left he called me. and i knew that he had been in a really bad relationship. And he was trying to get out of one right now. He has to kids a 14 yr old son and a 17 yr old daughter. We have talked a lot. He wants some one that will talk to him and not want to go to the bar all of the time. He wants some one that will spend time with him and car for him. I want someone that is not all about partying, drinking, drugs and not helping support your self. i dont want someone that i am going to have to support. I dont want to party and hang out all of the time. I have a job and i would like to keep it. I and 19 and i want to settle down. Am i to young to settle down already. I have had my share of drinking and getting sick, and all of the stuff that i used to think was fun. Do you think that i am ready?
2006-11-22 07:02:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously, what can the two of you have in common? His daughter is close to your age, that's just weird. At 19, you're still not all that mature. You're still a kid. Live a little, you "settle down" now, you will resent it later. Think about it, when he gets old, you'll still be young. You want to change his diapers at 40?
2006-11-22 07:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in an age difference relationship (7 years difference) so I'm not against age differences. However, take into consideration that this 35 year old man is relating to a 19 year old girl. You may be very mature for your age, but at 19 you are in a MUCH different place in your life than this man. There are struggles that you don't realize, little things. I go through them in my relationship, I'm not as financially stable and this gets frustrating for both of us. I'm trying to get my schooling done and figure out what I want in life, while my boyfriend is already established and a father.
An age difference relationship can be VERY hard, it can be done, but it takes A LOT of work. Take it slow, don't be in such a hurry!!! You're only 19, you shouldn't be thinking of "settling down" yet. I'm not saying you can't be with him, but you're going to change a lot over the next few years, TAKE IT SLOW and see how things go.
Good luck!
2006-11-22 07:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dasiavuu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not young at all,you are 19, Believe it when people say age is just a number. If you think all those funny stuffs like drinking, hanging are OK now, then thats good for you. It seems like you are mature than your age. If the guy is a nice and you two like each other then its Ok to settle and and have long relationship which is the better relationships of all.
2006-11-22 07:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by fine boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy seems a bit wierd. His daughter is basically your age. I suspect he may be after adding a young woman "notch" on his belt. That many years of age difference is huge at your age. You don't have the same life experience he does, and he knows that. I'd steer clear of him, and take some time to enjoy your youth.
Basically, settling down with this guy is NOT going to happen in my opinion. However, if you are after some "pleasure" then this might be just the ticket. If not, run away and don't look back.
2006-11-22 07:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of 19-year-olds who are mature and looking for a great long-term relationship. One of the things you need to ask yourself is, do you have the same life goals, spiritual values, and ambitions as your intended guy?
A marriage is similar to a team of horses pulling a wagon toward the same goal. If one horse wants to go left and the other go right, they aren't going to make much progress, waste a lot of time and energy fighting each other, and get tired of it quickly.
Talk with your guy and get clear on what it is you want out of life, and make sure that you both are in agreement. Then you can start looking at a future together.
Enjoy!
2006-11-22 07:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Peter S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to being ready to settle down than being over drinking and puking. I don't think you are ready because first of all, you can't see that he's on the rebound. Until you can at least get the basics of relationships down you shouldn't think you can make that kind of leap and not miss your landing. It's kind of like flying and not knowing there are no wings on your plane.
2006-11-22 07:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Wait somemore years okay. I'm 21 and I would never go out with a 35 yr old unless he was really rich and young looking. Plus he has kids your age that would just be werid for you and them. They might hate u too.
2006-11-22 07:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too old for you. The age difference is more than just a few years. I think at some point there would issues.
2006-11-22 07:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Robin L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 too and i luv older men...but if he has a 17 yr old daughter that's kinna weird
2006-11-22 07:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not settle down yet. You will regret it wait until your at least in your mid-twenties. As far as this man is concerned leave him alone. He might be nice but he has baggage and he is looking for someone to share his baggage with.
2006-11-22 07:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋