i was in a relationship and we were gonna get married next year but a week ago i was hanging out with this guy from work. the guy was drunk and i tried getting him off of me but he kept holding me down. well the reason my boyfriend left me was because i didn't tell him that it happened right away. anyways, he's with another girl but the thing is we both love each other. should he forgive me and take me back
2006-11-22 06:33:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, not really. You should have contacted the police immediately. Because you didn't, he was extremely hurt and confused. Why didn't she call the police? Did she want to have sex with him? Get my point?
2006-11-22 06:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No he should never forgive you for cheating, you had sex with someone else, that was your fault. I'm thinking if you were raped you would have called the police, although most girls dont. The bottome line here is it sounds like you just flat cheated. You screwed up, he should dump you and you should learn from it. The guy was drunk? Were you? What were you wearing? Jeans? How about anybody else around? Is is common for you to hang out at work with one guy while drunk? Too many unanswered questions. If you cheated you cheated. You made your bed, now lie in it. It's too bad... Good luck on your next relationship.
2006-11-22 14:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let me get this straight -
1. This event happened within the last week and he is already with another girl?
2. A guy from work practically raped you and because you didn't tell your boyfriend right away he broke off your engagement?
He should be the one asking for forgiveness...it sounds like he is pretty insensitive!
2006-11-22 14:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, first off, if the co-worker forced himself on you, that's called rape. I don't care if he was drinking or not. Go to the police and get him arrested.
Second, if the guy that plans to marry you next year left a week ago and is already with someone else, chances are you wouldn't survive the first year of marriage. He also seems like an insensitive prick as he left you rather than helped you get through this ordeal. Forget him, go to the police and start to get some counselling to get through this.
2006-11-22 14:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you were raped? If so, you need to report it to the police. If not, then you cheated and he's the only one who can decide if he can forgive you. Have you two thought about counseling? If you want to give this another chance, it might be a way to work through the issues.
2006-11-22 14:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite frankly,
ur boyfriend doesnt believe that u didnt want the guy to do it,, because if u didnt that would mean he raped you, and if he raped u, u wouldnt be afraid / hesitate to tell him or the police and since u did none,,,,,,
establishes the fact that u wanted it on some level,,,
so dont bullshit us
but
the good news is
if he really loves u he can prob try working things out with u put obviously postponing the weddin cause ur a little _____,,,,..........
sorry bout that
but u need to learn not to put urself in certain situations..
2006-11-22 15:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he should understand that you were in a situation of being raped. It sounds like this other guy forced himself on you. Your boyfriend should try more to understand the situation. Maybe, and I'm no expert here, you both should try some crisis(sp?) therapy? Good Luck to the both of you!
Peace!
2006-11-22 14:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by ralphstalnecker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and MOST important...Did he rape you? Did you say "NO"? Even if you just gave in because of fear, it's still rape if you didn't want it.
IF he raped you, REPORT IT. Being drunk is NOT an excuse. You owe it to the next victim to report him. Also, your fiance should not blame you. It wasn't your fault.
Your fiance doesn't realize that you won't tell him right away because that's not how ANYBODY works. Fear of your fiance's lack of support is why you didn't tell. He just proved your fears were correct.
2006-11-22 14:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt really cheat cuz the other guy was on top of u and u tried to get him off so how is it your fault tell him straight up everything that happened and if that doesnt work than that means he will never trust u so he might not be worth it.
2006-11-22 14:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really didnt want anything to happen and that guy forced you then why didnt you tell him before??
If he is with someone else just let him alone
2006-11-22 14:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by sofitaps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋