I had wanted to get closer to someone for several months. It looked like we wouldn't for most of the time but last week he made a gesture towards getting closer. (actually he asked to date--not seriously but to get to know eachother.) Sounds great! but..........Now that I have what I want I am unsure if I want it. There is another guy who was showing interest and I pushed him away because of starting to talk with the first guy. But now I regret it. i would like to get to know the other guy. I am confused, I want to get to know them both but I know that sounds wrong. (I am talking about getting to know them not exclusively dating) I am not sure of how to proceed. I am not even sure if the one who was pushed away will be receptive anymore. Does anyone know what to do? Any ideas what to do next?
2006-11-22 06:30:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you haven't commited to dating someone exclusively, go ahead and go on a date with each of them. Since you pushed the one away, ask him out. If he says no, then feel free to date anyone you're interested in until you commit to one person. Dating is a good way to find out if you like a person, but it also helps you find out what you are really looking for in a relationship. And please, please, please do not sleep with anyone until you both have made a commitment. It just complicates things.
Good luck finding a good one! Hope this helps.
2006-11-22 06:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with getting to know both of them, its your decision if you want to go out with them or not in this situation. One you could call your boyfriend and the other just a friend, over time. Just make sure the one that you pick to be a friend isn't the one that you talk to like you want to date.
2006-11-22 14:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of stealth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont play them choose who you would like to talk to if the first guy likes you why dont you to stay the way you are untill you get to know the other guy first....Dont try to see the both of them at once that will get very hard and then you will start lieing and no one wants to see that....just take it one step at a time slow down and think about it dont just jump at the first chance
2006-11-22 14:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I thought my life was twisted. Look, if you're just getting to know them, there's no law that says you can't get to know both of them. But you should have thought of that before you pushed #2 away. Are you sure you don't just want what you can't have? If he's up for it, get to know him too. Get to know the whole world! ( okay not really) but you should get to know a lot of people, so you can be sure the one you're with is the right one.
2006-11-22 14:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the first guy doesn't want to be serious - just date. if that is the case then there is no exclusivity and you can see who you want. if you really like the first guy though you should probably be as up front as possible so he knows where he stands. he may want to start by just dating and think later it is serious when you are not.
2006-11-22 14:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me, i'd spend time with both of them until i knew if it was actually going anywhere with either of them. you never know - it may not work out with either, or one of them could be The One. the only bad thing about this idea is if you end up liking both of them the same. so i say set a certain amount of time for getting to know them (like 1 or 2 months) and tell yourself that if you haven't already, you have to decide at the end of that time.
2006-11-22 14:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by faerydahlia3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋