If your best friend decided not to be in your wedding because she felt you did not take intrest in her life and she did not like the guy you were going to marry would you forgive her? What she was still trying to say sorry 3 years later?
2006-11-22 06:28:36 · 29 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She obviously felt her reasons were justified and 3 months seems like plenty of time to find a new one. So I guess it depends on if you think the friendship is worth it or not. Did she make a habit of bailing on you or was this a one time thing? Look at the whole picture not just one incident.
2006-11-22 06:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend bailed on my wedding, to go to another wedding with her boyfriend. Pretty mean, I know. She is a flake and I have learned to deal with it. I did end up forgiving her, although my hubby and I decided to go away to Mexico and get married. I guess I'm to the point where I really don't care what she does, she is still my best friend, but I've learned not to depend on her. So, I guess I cant really help you too much, but I would forgive her. Wouldn't you rather have her in your life than not at all. People change. I think if you talk to her about it, her feelings will change. Let her know that she is your friend, and you do care.
2006-11-22 06:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best friend is meant to stick with you through thick and thin and not going to your wedding is not a gesture of someone you should regard as a friend her response was selfish and she seemed jealous you were moving on with your life by getting married and she felt left out her insecurities are not what i would expect from a friend do not forgive as she is the one in the wrong
2006-11-22 06:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, forget and get on with your lives. Give her credit for standing up for what she believed (right or wrong). Only a good friend would show that kind of character when she thought you were possibly making the biggest mistake of your life. If you have been married three years and things are going well, she will be happy to have been proven wrong. Good friends are a treasure. Don't lose this one.
2006-11-22 06:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Suzianne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was a good friend to you then I probably would. It is hard to say because bailing on your wedding 3 months before is not very nice. You are the one to make the decision. You know in your heart what is best
2006-11-22 07:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 13:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by slagle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that was not a nice thing to do. Instead of supporting you when you needed it, she was selfish. Even if she didn't like the guy, as your best friend she should have been there for you. I think that I would forgive her though, people change and do things they don't mean all the time.
2006-11-22 06:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by busybee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay somebody needs to forgive and let go. Its been 3 years and it isn't like she bailed out a week before. She left 3 months before. Yes it must have been tight scheduling to replace her but I'm sure you managed.
Let go, move on. You don't have to have her as your friend any longer if you don't want to, but its just not healthy to have such animosity harboring inside you for so long.
2006-11-22 12:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's better then your best friend being fake the whole time, leaving your wedding 2 hours after the reception started, and all sorts of other issues.
If she is sorry forgive her.
2006-11-22 06:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she didn't like the guy i was marrying i would understand... because if ur against it.. u wouldn't want it to happen... which would lead to and objection... adn the not being interested in her life part.. then she wouldn't be your best friend... so that eliminates the question!... but yes i would forgive her.. at least she gave you 3 months to recruit someone else!
2006-11-22 06:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋