I'm 25 and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now (long distance). We have a great connection, and I do have the urge to kiss him, but for some reason when we're kissing, I tend to get bored with it. I don't really enjoy it but I don't mind because I really care about him and I can tell he is enjoying it. What's more strange is that many times it's me that starts the kissing because I really want to be close to him, but then I'm the one to get bored with it. I know I care about him a lot and I love him, so I don't understand why I don't feel the same way about kissing as he does. The situation is really upsetting, because I tend to think that maybe he should be with someone that enjoys kissing as much as he does. He is the first person I have ever loved or kissed, but I can still tell he is a good kisser, very gentle, sweet and no slobber. I love it when he kisses my neck, it's just the mouth I get bored with. Am I alone here? Will the situation improve?
2006-11-22 06:17:45 · 18 answers · asked by LAgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not alone. My bf is not really into kissing (on the mouth, anyway) - I think it's a "germ" thing. An old boyfriend & I liked kissing better than just about anything - sharing a DQ sundae was quite an experience - but every experience is different, and I wouldn't call 'lack of interest in kissing on the mouth' a deal breaker. Find other things you both like and focus on those.
2006-11-22 06:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just according who your kissing, I've had boys kiss and wow your body trembles that is just a good kisser. You may not even want to be with them but some boys really can turn you on. I was in high school, a boy that was ugly as could be was leaving for the service the next day and he kissed me goodbye and man I was tumbling. Some boys just know how to kiss and may if went all the way with them wouldn't know a thing about turning a woman om.. The same slow dancing I;ve had boys the way they hold you, you get willy willy. Whew
2006-11-22 06:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he's taking too long to get to the neck, maybe. That said, I tend to rush things and not enjoy life. Someone actually asked me once "Are you in a hurry to die". So that might be something you ask yourself. Try to be in the moment, if you're thinking while engaged in a kiss, "wow this is boring, I really wish we were playing video games" that's not being in the moment. Try to keep yourself focused and if you get bored then stop and move to the neck yourself, you might enjoy that more.
I hate to say it but maybe you're not really that much in love with him, maybe you're better off as friends.
As for kissing, I love kissing, I could do it all day and never get bored.
2006-11-22 06:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... thats strange. I LOVE kissing. My man has nice lips, I could kiss him alllllll day long. But, maybe its just not really your thing. Try to shorten the make out sessions a little bit so you don't get bored with it. It would suck if he could tell you were getting bored. Or, when it starts getting a little boring, move on to something else. Good luck!
2006-11-22 06:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing gets you emotional about somebody.It's like you sink into your partner's soul but all depends on your mood.
Before i kiss somebody,i look into his eyes to drain myself inside him and then i begin kissing him.That makes me believe that we're alone in a secluded place and there's only us in the world.One thing about kissing is that,if you aren't in the mood or loving it no matter how good kisser he is you won't feel anything.Don't kiss him only because you feel that you have to.Kissing is sometimes affected by things happening around,practice it in a romantic environment to see a change.
2006-11-22 06:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those who get bored of kissing aren't doing it right or doesn't have the right partner. It will only improve if you give him feedback that he needs to try something different. Maybe let you "lead". Try spelling the alphabet on each other's tongue. Be sure to swallow often so you don't drown.
2006-11-22 06:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what i think is that you want more then just a kiss.. you want passion.. don't get me wrong.. kissing is good.. but it does get boring.. especially if its the same every time.. mouth.. or neck.. make it more exciting.. collar bone.. shoulder... other places.. you know what i mean.. thats all i have to say about this one.. Good Luck hope you figure it out!
2006-11-22 06:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tara M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea i love kisses, cause there affectionate, passionate and they tell a lot about a person.
the neck always gets me, but i guess you bored with it because the mouth can get boring.
hey wh ydont you try kissing in the rain
2006-11-22 06:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by will's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could ask him to spend more time on the neck and let him know that you really enjoy it there. I'm sure he will want you to feel good too.
2006-11-22 06:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think kissing for eveyone is just a way to say i love you and wanna be with you.but yes sometimes it does get boring maybe u should try to do other things while your kissing your bf..
good luck
2006-11-22 06:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by heatherstike2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋