My son is 9. Any ideas to get consistent good behavior from him?

Question

At times he is perfect. Then there are other times that he acts up. I don't know how to respond to it. What are some good suggestions? He does go "pout" like a child, but at other times, be appolizes for his actions before I do anything.

Answer 1

Removing priviledges is the best method. No video games, tv, or what ever he likes the most. Take away his bike. no going to friends house.

This works with mine.

Start with short periods and see if he responds. If not go for longer.

good luck

Answer 2

Honestly he sounds like a really good 9 yr old to me. We all get upset at times and need time to go "pout". But you know you said like achild. I'm sorry but i do still view 9 as a child. Maybe I'm in a diffrent perspective or something. But you can't expect children to be good all the time. And if he is realizing some of the time that he has done wrong. Thank him for appoligizing and then have him tell you why it was wrong. But the times that he just goes into pouting mode...maybe he dosen't realize what he did wrong. And that's when you should look him eye to eye and tell him what it was.

Answer 3

If you want consistant good behavior, you have to be consistant in teaching him how to behave, and punishing him for not behaving. Consistancy breeds consistancy.

But also, no child is perfect all the time. It sounds like he's been well taught to this point, so just remain consistant where you always have been, and look for new places to be more consistant.

No means no. now means now. Dont do something always means dont do something. No if ands or buts about it. Just stay consistant with him, and it will make his behavior more consistant.

You must be doing a great job already, He sounds like a great kid.

Answer 4

Actualy this one is simple. You have to consistant! If you tell him you are going to ground him for a action you have to do it. You have to take his t.v away if that was what was said. Most important you have to follow your own word. if you say you will be some where then make sure you get there and on time. Kids learn so much from our actions and watch everything we do even when we don't know they are there.

Answer 5

Mi lil sis is 9!!!!!N he pouts lik a child coz he is!!!Mi sis is always cryin n complainin!!!U just hav 2 learn d rit way 2 deal wit it!!!!I do nt personally lik spanking bt mayb it works 4 u!!!Other ways are taki9n away tv or sending him 2 his room!!!Those always worked on me!!!
I wish u d best of luck bt i ask u 2 plz remember while punishing dat he is a child n he is allowed 2 cry n shout sumtimes (no metter how much it makes u wanna kick his a*s)!!
Luvz ya hun
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Answer 6

if it isnt serious outburts then dont respond to it give him no acknowledgement till its over what he wants is attention and if you give him positive or negative attention he will keep reapeating the same tricks LOL i am rasing to boys with behavioral disorders and I am kind of a an old hand at temper tantrums lol if he gets to out of hand give him a time out 1 min for every year of his age so 9 min this year if he spazzes wait before u set the timer until he is calm if he gets up reset the timer do not send to his room make him sit in a kitchen chair or your bedroom you dont want him to associate his room with punishment otherwise he wont want to sleep i thtere LOL well best of luck i hope i was soemwhat helpful

Answer 7

You say your sons 9 and sometimes he "pouts" like a child,,and other times he apoligizes quickly,,,,,WELLLLL,,,,,the reason he pouts like a child sometimes is because,,,,,HE IS A CHILD,,,,,and he apologizes quickly sometimes because he knows whatever behaviour he's done is wrong,,or going to get a negitive reaction,,,,,ALWAYS !!! ALWAYS !!!! ALWAYS !!!!! let your son know all the good things he does,,,even if it seems like something that is "taken for granet" ,,even really small things,,,,the more hes given positive feedback,,,the more he'll try to please you,,,,,Any child just wants attention,, and if "being bad",,or "annoying" at times gets them attention,,even though its negative attention,,, its still attention,,,,kids,,AND adults feel so good when their told that they have done something positive, something "right",,,,,the person (your son) will keep wanting to get that good feeling,,, that approval from you,,,,,,,,if at times hes "pouty",,, or "miserable" or "in a bad mood",,, talk to him,,,,, sit down,,, put him on your lap,,,hold him,,, find out whats bothering him,,,let him know (no matter how small his problem is) that your there to help him,, that the feelings hes having are ok,,and that EVERYONE at some point feels the same,,,,,EVEN YOU (MOMMY or DADDY) the one person in his young life that could do anything to him and he would keep loving you,, always want your attention,,, (positive or negative),,,As a mom myself,, it feels amazingly good to give your child love,,,to be the one of two soul people that he relize on,,,depends on,, (mom and dad),,,unconditionally,,,,and thats how we should be with him,,,, be there for him UNCONDITIONALLY,,,,,,,sometimes,, something that bothering a child seems so simple to us,,even funny at times,,,but kids are learning about life,,,,help them learn the right way to deal with how they feel,,,,then,,,when their older,,,teens,,,young adults,,moms or dads themselves they can pass on what you have taught them,,,,even if sometimes you havnt got a clue what to say,,what to do,,,, just hold them,,,be there for them,,, LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY,,,GOOD, OR BAD,,,OR POUTY, ,, OR MISERABLE,, OR ANGRY,,OR SAD,,,ALLLLL THE TIME LOVE THEM,,,,It wont hurt them,, thats for sure,,,, bye for now,, stay safe,,,,

Answer 8

I heard someone say that punishment must be swift, direct, and absolutely catastrophic. Your son must think that the world is coming to an end when he gets punished.

Answer 9

Give him enough ATTENTION, stop nagging him, tell him how his behaviour affects others, explain to him patiently and most importantly be an example for him.

Answer 10

Discipline him with a cane only if he does things that endanger himself or others.