when he got married i was terrified i would lose him i got ove it but now i've got that fear again what iis wrong im happy that i will be an aunt but i am still scared.
2006-11-22 05:45:54 · 26 answers · asked by Amdramida K. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
JUST BE HAPPY FOR YOUR BROTHER HIS BABY WILL ALWAYS BE FIRST BUT YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HIS SISTER DON'T WORRY !!!
2006-11-22 05:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ lou lou ♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your brother must be pretty close huh?
I guess you're just feeling a little bit insecure, like you did when he got married, but hey, you got over that didnt you?
The baby will more than likely take priority over everyone for a while, even your brother and his wife as a couple wont have the same amount of time for each other, let alone anyone else in the family for a little while, or indeed friends...until the baby becomes less dependant
One thing for sure is, the baby wont replace you and he may even rely on you (depending on how old you are, and I think people aren't realising you might be very young) to help out once in a while
think of the baby as an addition to your family, that's something sacred and not to be jealous of
talk to your brother about your anxieties and let him know how you feel, I'm sure he will reassure you otherwise
I'm guessing he played or plays a big role in your life, hence the insecure feelings?
Other than that, and again I don't know how old you are, but try extending your social life so that your focus is less on your brother and more on yourself
best wishes
2006-11-22 05:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by town_cl0wn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to loose your place in your brother's life. He is still going to be there for you and love you like he does now. Me and my sister are the best of friends and I promise things are not going to change between you. Being an Aunt is a wonderful experience that I would never take back in a million years. I love my niece as if she was my own child. I am sure you will feel the same way about your nephew or niece when they get here. Believe me this is something to look forward to. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 05:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got over one fear, you will get by this one too. You need to realize though, that your brother's life has new focus, that being his wife and new baby. You will always be his sister, but try to understand that his wife and child come first, in all things. If you continue to feel the way you do now, I would suggest talking to a professional.
2006-11-22 05:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by on2lifesjourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? Stop being selfish. He is your brother, he is allowed to have a happy normal life. Be happy for him and his wife. Celebrate the new life ,there is nothing more beautiful in life than family. Cherish the relationship you have had and will continue to have with your brother, his wife and the NEW BABY! Think of all the love you get to share with this new life.
2006-11-22 05:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be mean but grow up. He will always be there for you because you are his sister. You will make your own life and not need him as much as you think you do. He needs to make his life and be happy. If he is happy that's all that you should care about. Loving your sister and loving your child are two different things don't get them confused. Be happy that soon you will have a new member to you family to play with. You want to be there for the baby when he/she takes it's 1st steps, 1st word, etc..
2006-11-22 05:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by heygirl0222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard acceptng the fact that your brother is going to have his own child I know but you need to try to be there for him and his family, plus youll have a little baby to play with and spoil. Right now your nervous of course but once the baby is born things will be a lot better- he might be busy but he will always make time for his sister- my sister was worried about the same thing, but I still take her out and we still talk- plus she loves the fact that she is an aunt.
2006-11-22 05:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by alexnjennlexychajon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that you will always be his sister & will now be the baby's aunt. Instead of turning this into a competition, why not see the new baby for what she or he is - a member of the family that you can have a relationship with that can be as great as the one you have with your brother.
Get involved, offer to help, ask questions!
2006-11-22 05:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby will replace everyone because it's a baby. It won't replace you as a sister because (as far as I know) you are his only sister and that is a special bond. However, the bond between parent and child is the strongest bond as it should be. His child should come before you because it's his child. You need to get over this fear. It sounds like you may have an unhealthy attachment to him, perhaps you should try seeking some counseling.
2006-11-22 05:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving your brother that much isn't bad but do you want him to be happy or it's just about you?If you love him then be happy for him about the things that make him happy.He's a man and you can't keep him by your side forever.Why don't you do things that interest you and let him enjoy his.you will forever be his sister but he's got an obligation to his family.he can't compensate for what's happening to you,everyone has got one life to live,you live it or you don't.Start making new changes in your life to shift your attention a little bit from him.If should find out you're not happy about this baby,what do you think would come from him?We show our love to people by supporting them and not standing in their ways.
2006-11-22 05:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grow up and stop being a brat....a baby isn't going to take the place of anyone.....your brother will love you as his sister forever, his love for his child is another kind of love and that also will last forever...............it's just a different kind of love. You've got to let that brother go so he can live his own life now...love him as you've always done, but show him that, even though you need him in your life, you understand that life goes on and that you'll welcome the baby with open arms and be a big ole loving, ...sharing...auntie
2006-11-22 05:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by sred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋