Okay, so on friday, me n' my friend went with our other friend to go on a date w/ a guy that she meet on myspace. [to be safe] well long story short, we ended up liking each other. & he asked me to hangout w/ him at 2 in the morning the same night that they had their date. we hungout from 2-7 in the morning. & by the end of the night we were kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc. we had a rele fast connection, & felt like we've know each other forever. Then the next day he asks me to go to the movies w/ him. & we were laying all over each other, & cuddling, holding hands, etc. The next day he tells me that my friend is the typical kinda girl he goes out with. & that he likes me, but he likes her also. So he said that he's going to choose her. Then i talked to him again, & i said that we connected so fast that it scared me. n' he said that he's never had a connection w/ anyone as fast as he did w/ me. n' that something mit happen between us later. Please help?? Is he confused, or scared?
2006-11-22 05:38:24 · 31 answers · asked by muzicisrocko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's pretty obvious he is confused because he gots to choose between a girl that he usually dates, and a girl that he connected with on the first night. What you should do is tell your friend that also likes him and ask her what she thinks about him, of course she probably likes him, but you should tell her what went on, because she is your friend, right? anyway if your friend likes him just as much as you do, then I suggest that you let her have him, since she got him first. Think about your friendship first. is it really worth losing a friend over this guy? You see if you don't tell your friend about what happened and he chooses you over her, what is she going to think when she finds out the guy she likes went off with someone else. Chances are you wont be with him forever, but your friends will always be your friends as long as you don't screw it up.
2006-11-22 05:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by milky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're all pre-pubescent kiddies with raging hormones. You know nothing about establishing a relationship and bank on the fact that holding hands, kissing and blah, blah, blah will make everything perfect. You my dear have a very long way to go before you grow up. At least you didn't say you spread your legs for this guy. because that would have been the ultimate cincher.
When you get older...you'll understand.
Oh...and it's "My friend and I"..not "Me and my friend"
2006-11-22 13:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his freinds, espeacially female freinds, and ask about him. if you can talk to his mother and fid out about how he has treated other girls.
That way you can find out if he is a player.
I was in a similar situation where I had the hots for 2 girls at the same time, iwasn't trying to be a player, my intentions were pure it just happend with two girls who didn't know each other not freinds. It also depends on if you feel that you could share this guy. Just remeber that you freind has first dibs so if she really likes him and whants him to her self than you owe it to her to back off. It's only fair - you'd expect the same from her.
2006-11-22 13:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, and you sound like you moving way too fast for a first date. I forsee you becoming an unwed mother before long if you dont cool it with the boys. If he can move that fast and "connect" that fast with you, what makes you think he couldnt connect with someone else just as instantly. Wake up honey before it is too late....good things come to those who wait.
2006-11-22 13:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats easy. Hes a player. The kinda guy thatll tell a woman anything to get her. Next thing you know hell be telling you that things didnt work out with the friend and that he shouldve chosen you instead. And if your not a smart girl youll probably believe him.
2006-11-22 13:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by juniorm915 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either confused/scared or he's commitment phobic. If you connected with him fast, and the other girl i the "usual" type if girl he dates, then that might mean he's shallow and dates for looks, and because you and him share a connection, he may be commitment phobic.
2006-11-22 13:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet your friend is alot hotter than you (not an insult) and he see's that getting beyond 1st or 2nd base just isn't going to happen with you so he's going to try out your friend. He's is a young boy that's what they do....
2006-11-22 13:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you darlin, drop him and get on with the rest of your week. He wants it both ways and it doesn't matter what he says; you have to listen to his actions. Boys don't communicate with words we communicate by actions and his actions are telling me he's playing games.If you want to play games go along, but if you don't think you're worth being played with... then send him along.
2006-11-22 13:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
He want to hook up with her as well but if it doesn't workout he has you.
If he really had a great connection with you he woulkdn't even be thinking about her.
he's not worth it
2006-11-22 13:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like challanges.too much or too little of a challange is a disappointmen.
i think u gave in too easily.wat he meant by fastr connection was..that u were too easy.. not a good sign.
(i know this sounds bad)
2006-11-22 13:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋