My husband has been wanting to take our three year old twin girls on a small vacation. He feels that I need some time alone being that I don't work and pregnant. He suggested going away for two days. Like leaving on Friday and coming home Sunday. But he doesn't know what he should do with them. We live in Upstate New York. Our daughters, Lizzie and Kaitlyn, have really wanted to spend time with me more than their father. Is that a normal reaction to the situation. Please help us. I will be willing to tell you more if you want. My husband said that I could go shopping, go to the spa, and just rest and be by myself. Thank you!! My husband has been really supportive and wants to help.
2006-11-22 05:37:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It might be fun for the 3 year olds to have a date with Daddy and he could take them to the closest amusement park. They all have the kiddy land rides and shows. Daddy could get a hotel/motel room for the night and take them out for a kiddy dinner like a pizza fun time establishment and then Saturday take the kids to the park for as long as they can stand it. Then back to the lodging and come home on Sunday morning.
2006-11-22 05:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very normal reaction... every person has a different personality including children some times children would be more drawn to one parent than the other for a number of resaons maybe they feel more comfterable with you as you spend the most time with them or it could be just a phase they are going through soem times my children want me more or then they want my husband it changes form year to year ... I think its very commendable that your husband wants to help you out its great!!! you need a break I am a stay at home mom aswell
as for what he should do with the girls that depends on what they like... taking them to a doll museam might be fun and shopping of course because they are girls maybe he could take them to a musical that is a great way to develope their little minds also for a carraige ride that would be fun and maybe drive around to see all the christams light s i enjoyed that as a child and take them skating play at the park there is so many really cool ideas although im not from new york so i dont exactly know whats available but being such a big city im sure there are lots of very cool ideas.... ask the kids what they would like to do that could be alot of fun!! if there is a petting farm in your are asomewhere and to feed the ducks ask the kdis you might be surprised what they coem up with they might be young but im sure they have plenty of great ideas !!! I sure hope you all have a great time no matter what you do!!! best wishes and good luck!!
2006-11-22 13:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by summer dawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it's sweet tht your husband wants to take your daughters away on a trip so you could relax since your pregnant but he doesn't have to leave you completely out. I would suggest he arrange for you to have a spa day but make sure the spa that you go to have like a maternity package specifically for mothers to be. While you are at the spa which might last anywhere from hour and a half to three hours, your husband could have like a "date" with your daughters, maybe take them to the movies( Happy Feet is really good, and your husband would enjoy it too) and when your done at the spa, you and your husband could take your girls out for dinner, make it a family event. And as far as ur girls liking ur more than ur husband, they might but i think the pregnancy plays a bigger role and the girls just want to be around "mommy and the baby more. I hope this helps you out!!!
2006-11-22 13:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by GA Peach Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he wants this to be for you to relax, make sure he does something with them that does not leave you worried. That would kinda defeat the whole purpose.
How about he stay home with the girls, get a small tent, sleeping bags, and have a camp out, either in the back yard or if it's too cold, then in the living room. If you have a fireplace, that would be pretty cool too. This way, you could go to a spa type thingy, do your shopping, whatever and actually be relaxed, instead of all worried about how they're doing.
2006-11-22 13:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband had offered to spend time with the girls, let him, it will be fun for them.I am a mom of two and I also think my husband doesn't know a thing about our kids too, but I have learned in 14 years that, they hide that fact that they really do know how to raise kids after all. The husband's just don't want to step on our toes, you know.It mean, my dear, he respects you,nice huh!! If it will make you fell better(it did for me on my trip)I made a list of my child's routine, a list of numbers of people to him (if he needs help),a list of things you girls want to get away with(so you hubby don't have to learn the hard way),And if you want lay out their clothes for him, for the girls to wear.And your husband is right, we do deserve a break today, because we have a tall order for a job. It will be hard to leave and the gir5ls will play their game, just tell them it's dad's turn and that you are going to buy them presents and to be good or you won't get them. Have fun on your outing and enjoy, check in from time to time to alieve your mind that everything is just find. Remember one thing, your husband knows how hard your job is and knows it's yours and he wants to be a part of it.
2006-11-22 14:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why doesn't he just set you up somewhere for the weekend...and maybe him and the kids can go to Grandma's for the weekend...where Lizzy and Kaitlyn (love this name - my daughters name) can spend time with granny and grammpy! He must be a wonderful man to suggest this...go and give him a big hug and be thankful for him.
2006-11-22 13:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them to a little-kid theme park like sesame place
or something like that. staying overnight in a hotel with
an indoor pool would be great. a heated pool!
take them to a series of outdoor parks in little towns.
or petting zoos, things like that. or regular zoos.
consider leaving them at home and taking a room at a spa retreat by yourself, instead of them leaving.
2006-11-22 13:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live upstate NY, take them to the finger lakes... or to Hill Cumorah in Manchester, is a nice place to visit and they will enjoy the outdoor live there...
2006-11-22 15:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by jaarceg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he can bring the children to the in laws, as i guess most grandparents love these kids.
2006-11-22 13:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋